Hey there, It's me, Drewster! Ok so the hot new topic of the day. How can i get my girlfriend to initiate sexual activites, ie: Ravage when i walk in the room, just grab me with the intentions, or even just start stuff. I usually have to start anything sexual and i have spoken to her about it in a very nice and understanding way. But i'm at the point where i just want to be like, DAMMIT WOMAN, 3 YEARS, 3 YEARS! START SOMETHIGN ON YOUR OWN! of course i would never do that, but would appreciate any help you can give. I do sexy things, dress up for her, do things to make her want me, soemtimes i can tell she does, but never acts on it. Thanks for any advice.
2007-02-09 06:29:00 · 13 answers · asked by Drew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow alot of good responses so far, some not creative at all. i jsut want to clarify we dont have sex all the time and i dont try all the time to have sex with her, i would just like her for once before the day of our 3 year anniversary to initiate things, just once.
2007-02-09 06:46:50 · update #1
well....everybody likes a little challenge....including women. It sounds like you are doing a lot to get her attention. Maybe try leaving it alone for (I know it sounds like a long time) a few weeks. She may realize that she misses having a little Drew in her life....and come looking for it!
2007-02-09 06:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not that easy for a woman to be like a man in this respect. She may have had some bad experiences in her past that results in her reluctance to do anything suggestive.
I suggest that the two of you role-play a scene from a movie - just for fun. You can find a scene from a movie like "Body Heat" or "Unfaithful" where the woman rips the clothes off the man. REMEMBER, you will be doing this just for fun with no expectation for sex afterwards.
Personally, I have always wanted to do that scene where the stuff on a dining room table is knocked to the floor so as to make room for you-know-what.
The idea to impress on her is that being sexy can be fun, even when you are pretending to be sexy, and that sex does not have to be such a serious thing. It is even OK to laugh while making out.
You need to find out what is her comfort zone regarding sex and work some roleplays into it.
2007-02-09 06:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by DrRJP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think my boyfriend feels the same way as you do! The thing is, I can't even go to bed in just my underwear because he pounces on me as soon as my head hits the pillow! Just relax for a while and stop trying to initiate all the time, give her a chance to! Do something romantic, light some candles and make her dinner, rub her shoulders, then see what happens. Do a little foreplay first before just trying to just have sex with her.
2007-02-09 06:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time initiating sex with my husband, I know he wants me too but he has rejected me in the past when he was angry so I am a bit reluctant to, and I plain just feel like a jack*ss when I try, Do men feel that way or do they care?
2007-02-09 06:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start wearing male g-strings and walk around the house like that. Also try stroking yourself in another part of the house where you know she will catch you. Do this in a sexy way, and perhaps she will get turned on and come help you.
2007-02-09 06:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lorna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might come as a shock, but as an American you have the right to chose who to be with. If her sex life doesn't jive with yours (and lets face it- that's IMPORTANT!!!) then maybe it's time to find someone who is on the same wavelegnth as you. Break up and find someone more sexual, and let her find someone more tame. It won't get better as time goes on. Statistics show that sex gets "worse" over time.
2007-02-09 07:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be hard to do but just hold off on sex until she does initiate it! Send her little signals that you want it without actually initiating it yourself and see if she takes the bait!
2007-02-09 06:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need to dress up as the sexy cheerleader for once. Put on the mini-skirt and prance around the room.
2007-02-09 06:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she may be insecure on how to act i was the same way with my husband for along time. try asking her about it and see if she is if so just reassure her all the time you aren't going to be offended by anything or laugh at her. it worked when my husband said it to me and now we are crazy all the time ; )
2007-02-09 06:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by amromine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's not in her nature... You can't *make* someone do things they're not comfortable with or have no desire to do. Find a g/f who is more willing to be pro-active - or find something else to enjoy in your current relationship. You can't have everything.
2007-02-09 06:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋