I have hear so many negative people about us getting married
2007-02-09 06:28:49 · 14 answers · asked by tammy b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
His problem, not yours.
2007-02-09 06:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck! I know mexicans (mexico influence) hate blacks like whites do or worse. I think black families are probably more accepting. Mexicans embrace light skin and eyes like some other cultures. So if you have children they will probably be singled-out because of African American features. I know this because I grew-up in a multi-racial family. Also, the racial jokes are continuous especially on holiday and birthday parties. If you got tough skin your good, if not I feel sorry for you.
2007-02-09 14:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure where you live, but I'm African-American and am with a man who is 1/2 Native American and half Caucasian, and we don't hear a word. I think it's all about YOUR life and what you want to do with it. So what if someone doesn't agree. Are they signing your paychecks, paying your bills, loving you like your family does? If not, don't worry about it. Live your life. Also, it 2007, if someone still has racial problems, THEY have a problem. And you shouldn't make it yours.
2007-02-09 14:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by irie.girl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think they will accept you. Hispanic families are a lot like Black families as far as being close knit and welcoming so they won't disown him for dating you or not accept you into the family. Some people in the family may have their prejudices but if they do they more than likely will keep it to themselves. Anyhow you are marrying him not them, and as long as he loves you is what matters. I think the main issue that you may have is the language barrier especially when dealing with older members of his family. I suggest you learn Spanish if you don't know it because at family gatherings they will likely be speaking in Spanish.
My boyfriend is Salvadoran and they have more of a reputation for being racist than Mexicans do and I have never had a problem with anyone in his family. We have been together for 5 years and we have 2 children together and I love his family to death. People might have their apprehensions at first but when they realize that you are there to stay they will warm up to you. I think it is no different than any other situation when parents want to make sure their child's partner is right for them.
One thing to keep in mind is that Latin people are very proud of their culture so if you show interest in it, like helping his mom in the kitchen and trying to learn to cook their foods, they will warm up to you faster.
Also if his parents were not born in the U.S. the family dynamics will probably be very traditional as far as the role of the women...so keep than in mind at family functions with how you interact with your husband and his dad. Because some things that we see as normal in our Post Women's Lib. society they will see as disrespect and when you're trying to win them over you don't need another strike against you.
But I think it will be okay. Remember that love always trumps hate.
2007-02-09 15:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Roni 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People of all cultures have closed minds when it comes to interracial dating. I'm lucky that my boyfriend's family accepts me. Not everyone can say the same. You should meet his family and talk to them before you consider marriage.
2007-02-09 14:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are supposed to be marrying the guy that you love, not his family. if they dont like it it doesnt matter they dont have to go to bed with you every night. if they dont accept you they must be mad but im sure that given time they will come to love you. the world is not as small minded as it once was
2007-02-09 14:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by mum of 2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, your not getting married to his family
2007-02-09 14:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only one who can answer this would be you. I would think that before you step into Marriage you would want to meet his family. See what they're like, how you get along with them. Don't let fear push you into inaction. Chances are you'll be pleasantly surprised.
2007-02-09 14:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should. My grandma's mother was black and her father Mexican, and she was accepted by his family. But if they don't they'll come around one day.
2007-02-09 20:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nice Aries Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you should be asking him. Whether or not his family will accept you depends on his family, and no one but members of that family can answer your question.
2007-02-09 14:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by CHBN 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a white guy with a black girlfriend.
She just said you got to do what you want.
Do as you please.
I agree with her.
No matter what you do you are not going to pelase everyone all the time.
2007-02-09 14:33:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋