ok here is the deal...me and my husband have been married for 5 years, we got married when we was 17. I was his first and he has always talked about having 3somes or swinging with our best friends whom are married also. I heard the other day from my husbands best friends sister that my husband ****** his wife while I was at work. He promised he would never cheat on me and I don't think he could ever do that to me. This "sister" said that they finally talked him into doing it because they didn't think it was right that he had never been with n-e-one else, and they swore never to tell me no matter what. It supposedly happened on my bed. I confronted the friends and they swore to me it didn't happen and that the sister is mad at them and trying to cause problems. None of their stories match up and my husband swore on our kids' lives that he didn't do it. I told my husband if he ever cheated on me i would divorce him and take the kids so i don't know if he is scared to tell me. he won't a
2007-02-09 06:20:27 · 4 answers · asked by amber puckett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you can try to get more proof one way or the other. Is this sister claiming that she was present when your husband did this? If so, ask her some questions to see if she has the right answers. Ask her to describe what he was wearing, or some detail about his body, etc. Ask her what she can tell you to prove she's telling the truth.
Then get your husband together with this other woman he supposedly slept with. Tell them you want to talk it out and get to the bottom of the truth. Maybe you'll be able to tell by their reactions to each other or the looks on their faces.
If none of those things give you a positive answer, then you'll have to go with your gut feeling on who to trust.
Good Luck!
2007-02-09 19:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to set your husband down and tell him how upset and hurt you are by what you have heard. Then if he still swears nothing happened I would tell him that you want him to go with you and confront the sister and best friend face to face. You need to get this out in the open. If he is being honest then he should be willing to do this for you knowing how much it means to you. Trust is so hard to hang onto once we have concerns and you need to try to settle this. Once your husband has confronted this with you, you will need to decide that you believe him or not and put it behind you or leave. I hope he is telling the truth and will confront these people with you and that you can regain your faith in him. Good Luck.
2007-02-09 10:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he did. It sounds to me like he and this other couple are innocent and that their sister really is trying to stir-up trouble for them. I mean, who are you going to trust? Your husband of five years or this couple's sister you barely know? If you say the sister then you have some serious relationship problems already.
Also, as a post-note... cheating is not part of the swinging lifestyle. Not saying it couldn't happen that your hubby could get involved with some swingers, but chances are not with real, veteran swingers. Maybe this couple if they are inexperienced and don't know the rules of engagement.
Swinging is not about cheating, and most swingers will not tolerate cheaters and will not include them in their sexual play. Their life is all about complete honesty with each other and not about drama, and in no way would they want to be part of someone else lying to their spouse or would they want to create drama and possibly divorce between another couple just to get-off. They can do that together or with other swinger couples without drama.
2007-02-12 03:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its lies your husband might be telling the truth i hope hes not lying about cheating come home from work early one day and try to catch him
2007-02-12 13:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋