What's next?

Question

I'm in the process of moving out of my (ex)fiance's house. He's not here... gone on business, but I'm moving in with my grandfather. I just graduated from college and am in debt with student loans. I did get a job yesterday, but I'm just kinda stunned. We stayed together while I was gone at school, he proposed at my graduation, and now I'm at his house, on his computer, avoiding packing up the rest of my stuff. Staying here is out of the question considering what he did (one of my friends). I don't know what life is gonna be like without him. What's next?

Answer 1

what's next is you picking up your heart off the ground and gluing it back together---I know the feeling. Work as much as you can, concentrate on paying your loans back and doing what you have to do to make YOU happy. A man who cheats on u with ur damn friend means no good to you. Give your self time to rebound, then start dating other guys. Again, your first priority should be establishing yourself by eventually getting your own place, and slowly but surely paying off that debt. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

your whole life is next, that's what and this is the best move you will ever make because you are moving forward!

Good for you!!!

You know, the more broken hearts you have in your young life the better you will be able to tell when you have found someone who will not break your heart.

You are so lucky to have a grandfather waiting for you, and a new job that will take up all your time. You need to not think about him at all, because you are stunned right now. Your fiance and your girlfriend will make lots of efforts to make up with you but you know who they are now. Better you know that now than in ten years when you have a home together, kids, lots of friends together, are financially dependent upon eachother.

Pack up your things and while you are at the computer, email all of your friends and tell them you are breaking up, tell them why you are breaking up and name names sweeite. Spread that girl's name all over your world. She earned the notoriety the moment she spread her legs for your man.

Then, turn off the computer, grab your bags and boxes and walk out the door. I would leave anything he ever gave you behind, except the ring. Never return jewelry. Hock it or have the stone reset into a necklace or something but, that boy doesn't get that ring back. Grandma told me that once, and it's as good a piece of advice now as it was then.

You have a wonderful future ahead of you as long as you stay focused. I have found that once a man cheats on a particular woman he will always cheat on that woman. People do, until they find the person they are supposed to be with, then, cheating just doesn't ever come into play, no matter the temptation. If you had been the right woman for that boy your friend could have paraded naked in front of him and he would have just looked at her, that's all.

Answer 3

you should just move on. Your life is just beginning. You just got out of school and everything is opening up for you. Really it's better to have found out about this now, and not ten years down the road. Follow your career, focus on paying off your student loans and the rest will fall into place. I'm sorry things aren't turning out the way you planned...try to look at this as a new opportunity and a close call....not an ending.

Answer 4

I was in a similar situation a few weeks after my graduation. My boyfriend at the time left me the day before I got my first job after college. I couldn't believe it either and didn't know what to expect, but I went out and found a new man, with whom I had a hot affair with for several weeks. It was fun, and that got me through my transition.

Answer 5

Absolute and total freedom. You have a place to stay, and a job which will get you back on track with paying those nasty student loans. Cheating is so unacceptable and now you will be rid of him and tomorrow you will wake up a new woman. Strong, indepent and self reliant. You can do this.

Take care and god bless.

Answer 6

You'll go through alot of emotions~ depression; anger (for what he's done to you); lonliness; fear; and even hopelessness. But, you will get past it and be able to move on with your life! Right now you should just concentrate on your schooling; getting out of debt; and getting your life together~ then worry about finding a man! Put yourself first!

Answer 7

What's next you ask? The REST OF YOUR LIFE!!
You may be hurting and unsure now, but remember this is only a small portion of your life now, and in a couple of years you will look back and be unable to imagine what you were thinking when you were going to marry him. Your life is going to be great.

Answer 8

what did he say when u confronted him? is he remorseful or denying it happened? doesn't look as if u are really sure of this. is it an affair or a one night stand? maybe u need to talk to him about it, before u leave and walk out of his life forever. he did a bad thing, hurt u alot, but can it ever be worked out and can u ever forgive, depending of course on his response. we get our ego's hurt, and we think we can never forgive them, but if the relationship has been good up until now, and this is not a pattern of behavior out of him, maybe u need to talk to him first.

Answer 9

Sounds like you are a smart girl, you will do fine and you are taking the right steps, just live life and enjoy yourself you don't need to worry about a man, there are plenty out there let him find you.

Answer 10

one day at a time!

Good Luck...follow your heart!