My husband and I (really more me than my husband) are trying to put together a will to ensure that our 8 month old son would be cared for according to our wishes in the case that something happened to us. We are in agreement with most things....except for who to grant guardianship to. I really would want my parents to have primary custody. His parents are great people and they love our son, but they are emotionally and financially burdoned by my brother-in-law....and always will be. I want to ensure that they have a lot of visiting time with him, just not primary custody. My husband is not against my parents having custody, but he doesn't want to hurt his parents by not naming them as guardian. He is refusing to even talk about it....I think he hopes I'll just forget about the whole subject. Has anybody else had to do this? How did you and your spouse come to an agreement?
2007-02-09 06:13:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure your husband is just worried about hurting his parents feelings. So he's just ignoring the whole topic rather than deal about it. I guess you could tell him that there's no reason his parents have to know. Don't tell them anything about your will or guardianship. Or you could go to his parents yourself and explain your reasons on why you're naming your parents as guardians. I think it's fairly common for couples to chose the wife's parents anyways. Hopefully his parents will be understanding.
Good Luck!
2007-02-09 19:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the idea of instead of either set of parents, that maybe you have mutual friends, with the same belief system, and discipline (teaching about life) system as you, that you could ask? If not, I would vote for your parents-due to the fact of financial benefit for yor child. The needs of a growing child are very important. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-09 14:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not grant Joint Custody to both sets of parents? That way your child will get the best of both worlds, especially if they live nearby. This may be the compromise you need! Hope this idea is of some help.
2007-02-09 15:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by bsoundog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could name his parents as secondary guardians which would mean that they have a visitation schedule and they get your son if for some reason your parents can't take care of him! Kind of like divorced parents! Good luck with this!
2007-02-09 14:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋