How do you stay faithful?

Question

i mean is it somthing spontenous to be faithful to your wife/husband. or it is somthing you have to work for it all the time..

i mean that how does your emotions stay constant to your wife/husband all the way in your life span.. doesnt it change or deformed? does meeting some new poeple in your life -whom may attract you physically or intellictually- may affect your emotions toward your woman/man?

Answer 1

focus your attention to your partner . Spend more time together , being attracted to new people is normal; but never forget that you are committed to somebody. just think about the good times that you've been through ...

Answer 2

Spontaneously faithful? I think that's a new band out of Seattle.

You love your spouse; that love grows each and every day. You come to love their idiosycracies. Sure, you'll see someone else that appears more attractive from time to time, but...so what? I now understand why everyone is screwed up in Hollywood.

Emotions ebb and flow, but for the most part are constant. Some say meeting new people helps others appreciate their significant others. Been to a bar recently? I'm glad to come home after dealing with some of the people that live in them...

Answer 3

You stay faithful by having a great and loving relationship with your mate! If you can keep the love going strong between the 2 of you then noone else will ever seen so attractive to you that you could cheat on your spouse!

My husband and I have been together for 12 years this tuesday and I still don't think about anyone else! Our love is as strong now as it was then! He still turns me on with just a look or a soft touch. And it's because we've kept the love and romance going strong!

Answer 4

I think a lot of it has to do whether you have faith in yourself. Do you know who you are and are you respected and do you have integrity? Do you have a code of ethics, a strong sense of right and wrong, your own boundaries and limitations? Or do you just go from moment to moment?

Your questions are important. We are impacted by all people we meet. Beautiful women are by far the most enticing for me. I have met many irresistible women when I was already in a committed relationship. Aside from that I did not want to complicate my life anymore that it already was because of the normal things that go on in life. That' s probably why I never strayed ever in any relationship I have had.

Being single for 13 years now has allowed me to have a more dynamic life-style and to see and go after more opportunities in relationships and in professional connections.

I think relationships do take work, but they also have a spontaneous quality which give them that spark. I would hope that the emotions you have for your partner would not stay constant--but rather they would go to higher levels of passion and raisings of the bar so as to speak. If they don't you will stray or emotionally die. The vision of dead men and women who do not smile is enough to make you shudder.

Answer 5

I was married for almost 5 years and it was our first and only marriage. I didn't look at another soul or flirt for the first 3 years or so. I was committed and thought I was really happy. I am usually a big flirt and just enjoy the attention of men but I found it easy to be faithful to my husband. I didn't want to hurt this good man. BUT then...things changed and we had our issues and it was as if my eyes were opened on our relationship. We tried to work it out and failed. I just got to feeling like he was not who I'm meant to be with and vice-versa. We divorced and it's hard being alone again. Really hard. I miss some things but know that we made the right choice. I never cheated on him in reality but I did in my mind and that's almost as bad, I suppose. I guess I just wasn't committed enough ?

Answer 6

When a wife or husband chooses to seek peace outside of their own home....it's trouble in paradise.

A Man must take consequences for his actions against his spouse and vice versa when they allow themselves to be put in a situation where another mate can touch and feel what is personal to their own.

If a wife seeks an affair only once because she was drunk...it's not justifed for her actions and vice versa.

If you can not handle the responsibility to your self and your spouse then why get married?

A Man can marry a beautiful, beautiful woman, but that doesn't mean that he will keep to himself for the entirety of the marriage if he chooses another elegant woman to be laid upon with because of his lustful desire.

When a husband or wife is confronted with a situation where your fantasies may become reality and you are married...it's best to divorce then hurt one you love by having an affair.

Which is more to hurt?
1. Divorce?
2. Have an affair?

I can answer that for you. They both hurt.

Answer 7

It's never been a question of "working on it" for me; once I make a committment, I simply follow it. I keep it "fresh" by not making committments very often. Having had sown plenty of the wild oats helps, too; I know what's on the "other side", and it's not greener. I don't expect my emotions to stay constant throughout my life - this would be unrealistic; but I do expect the general level or responsibility, respect and committment to remain roughly the same.

Answer 8

It all comes down to how much you love & respect the person you are with. It came easy for me. First you have to make a HONEST commitment to yourself Staying faithful is up to you and what kind of person you are. Also if you really love someone, you should have no problem staying faithful to that person. It just comes naturally. If you are worried about a tendency to stray, then you should never commit yourself to just one person because it wouldn't be fair to the one who has committed to you. Relationships are based on more than just sexual attraction, so if that's all that interests you, you will probably never stay faithful to any one person. There is no formula for faithfulness. It's either there, or it isn't.

Answer 9

It is human nature to look! But it is willpower, respect and the vow you made upon marriage not to act upon those feelings. As they say 'window shop but dont buy!!!! '
How would you feel if your wife had the same feelings as you??
Better the devil you know mate............ remember fatal attraction!You could put your thought efforts into improving and bettering what you already have.......some people dont realise how lucky they are to be in loving relationship and end up taking it for granted...and then some realise this only after when they have lost it, for what a meaningless bit of fun!

Answer 10

staying faithful for me has been a very hard thing to do...

in a five year relationship, especially in the begining, i did cheat a lil...but for over 4 years i have been a stand up guy, no matter what women have hit on me...

and no...my love hasnt been constant, there are weeks that the love is strong and at times....like when in conflict my emotions have almost made me stray...

i have stayed faithful because i always think of the hassles that come about to cheat itself...the lying, the trying to find excuses, the level of jealousy that you begin to have when you cheat; for some reason you always think the other person is doing the same to you. plus, its hard to do all that juggling if you have a full life...just think of the pain it would cause if you were caught...is it worth it? if you answer yes, than you shouldnt be with the one your with...

Answer 11

Well, if you truly love and respect your spouse staying faithful shouldn't be a problem. Yeah, sometimes you will see or run into someone that you find attractive but that doesn't mean you need to act on it...that is where self control comes in. Just keep it moving. These kind of questions get on my nerves...LOL!