I told my X-boyfriend that I would go out with him for Valentines Day and now I don't want to go.?

Question

My x-boyfriend and I have been broke up since May 06, it was not a bad break up so we remain friends. In the last month the lines have gotten a little blurred (i.e. we had sex about 4 weeks ago), but I still feel like I should move on. I have meet this new guy that is great and I really like him, but do not know how to tell my X that I want to be JUST FRIENDS since I feel as though I have been given him mixed message. Now, the new guy wants to go out for Valentines and I don't know what to do

Answer 1

a lot of people MG Honey are giving you some sound advice in which you should not go out with your ex boyfriend because once an ex boyfriend is always an ex boyfriend.

I wish you the vert best of luck that life has to offer to you.

Answer 2

Call your x-bf, expalin to him that you really enjoy being friends with him, and while things are still fun, that you made a bad judgement choice and mistakenly blurred the lines between your friendship when you slept together 4 weeks ago. Tell him that since that has happened, the weeks after have given you a clear idea of what you are looking for, and you think your relationship is best left as 'friends' without benefits. You shouldn't feel trapped by what you have done, you just have to own up to your actions, accept responsibility and then move on.

Answer 3

How could you not know what to do? If you want to be friends with the old guy and date the new one, then do it. Why do you women always try to make simple things more complicated than they really are? Women always whine about how guys don't respect their feelings and blah, blah, blah, but more often than not have no problem stringing guys along and messing with their heads because they want the best of both worlds. If you like the new guy and feel that you need to move on from the old guy, then do it.

But seriously though, why are you asking a bunch of people you've never met? Why not ask your family and friends?

Answer 4

I think it's acceptable to back out of going out with the ex on Valentine's Day, but you really do need to do it soon - don't wait until within 48 hours of the 14th.

Also, you should be kind but firm - now that you've blurred the lines a little you need to make it clear that things are going back to being friends only, and that if that's not going to work for him then maybe the two of you need to not talk or hang out for a while.

Answer 5

please allow me, MG Honey, to answer this question for you. with all due respect that you do merit, I seriously don't think that going out or dating an ex boyfriend is the safest nor the best thing to do. here is why:

(1) you have to analize that since you broke all relations with him that perhaps he has a new girlfriend or perhaps not. a guy to change to his ways doesn't happen over night (like 8 months)

(2) you have to take into consideration your new botfriend and what he wants and says. if he tells no, then you can't go out with your ex boyfriend. if he tells otherwise then it is a different story.

in short the answer is: DON'T GO OUT WITH YOUR EX!!!

Answer 6

You should go with X. Why? Because you already told X you would go out with him on V Day. You don't know how much money he has spent on you for that day and other reservations he may have made. It would be unfair to tell him at the last minute you don't want to go thereby causing him to be out all that expense. Who knows, he may bed you down again since it was 4 weeks ago that you two had sex.

Answer 7

Simply call him and tell him you're unable to go.When there is still love or like between two,is impossible to keep a friendship relation without having something.For him is easier ,he is the guy, but in this case you are the one who loses,you have a great opportunity to move on now that you find somebody.Be firm, and give you a chance with someone new.

Answer 8

Make a choice. Sit down and decide which guy you want then let the other one go. If you keep playing both sides, when they find out, which they inevitably will, you're likely to lose them both.

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Right now you're not being honest with anyone, including yourself.

Answer 9

Tell the x right away that you feel like you should just remain freinds.If you dont,,you will be living a lie & thats not good for anyone.Except the new invitation & dont bring up the x bf in his company.

Answer 10

Honey, don't feel like you have to go out with him to spare his feelings if it makes you unhappy. Do what makes YOU happy. He's a big boy, he will deal with it. He's your ex for a reason... you don't have to live your life to please him! :)