How do u deal with means girls in middle school?
2007-02-09 05:47:04 · 18 answers · asked by bump_set_spike_44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the thing with girls is ignoring us wont help. thats what everyone says to keep the peace but it doesnt work. confrontation doesnt work either because in middle school everybody wants to see a fight. thats all .they dont care if your right or wrong. the best thing i could tell you from my personal experience is this: be honest. you dont want to act scared but you dont wanna act cocky either. tell them your not trying to fight but your not gonna take their sh** either. look them straight in the eye and be serious. dont turn away or be intimidated. you also should watch what they do. everygirl has an insecurity. what are theres? are they not very smart? or are they kind of over weight? most times they pick on others to distract attention from themselves. be strong. you dont have to be some extra aggressive person to deal with us b/c we are human too. just stand up for yourself. if they talk about you behind your back let them. its usually b/c they r too scared to say it too your face. if they say it to your face they look at them in the eye and say they must feel like a really big person trying to make you feel bad. but it doesnt work b/c you couldnt give too sh**s about what they say because they will never own you or break you. then say its actually kind of sad that they're so obsessed about you. they must actually have a crush or some sort of freaky fixiation on you. (when you say it say it like you would if some one told a joke that was sorta funny but wasnt) then walk away. if they continue to bother you in class dont ignore when someone says something to you. just look at them like they're something you pulled off the bottom of your shoe and look them (slowly) up and down and give a little laugh.(as though they are pathetic) and leave it like that. dont ever let them get to you. through life your gonna find jerks at every corner but dont ever let it change you. but dont ever take it either because you deserve more than that.
2007-02-09 06:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
guy above is right.... the only reason they do it is to get attention from others or to feel power by putting someone else down because of their insecurities. It's very immature... I'm a junior high school teacher and they do the same to teachers, to a limited extent at least - trying to poke fun to get attention.. Sometimes it annoys the teacher too, but the difference is that most teachers can understand that these "mean girls" (or boys) are really just being immature, so it usually doesn't bother us too much. This is what you have to do.... you can't let it bother you. It's hard because usually as this happens you're also getting judged by your peers, but if you don't react they have nothing to feed on. Convince yourself that whatever they're saying is not true, or not important.... even if you ignore them, but they Know it still gets to you, they might persist anyway. Know you're better than them, and believe it! You'll realize how little those people matter in the future. Be strong! Believe in yourself!
2007-02-09 06:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by chigaimasu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dealing with mean girls is sometimes difficult because I was once a mean person i used to hurt people's feelings just so I would seem like te better person. now what you do is tell them off as in standing up for what u belive in and if they don't understand punch them lol just kidding the honest best thing to do is confront them and go with a lot of other people who probably feel hurt or tormented by those " MEAN GIRLS" but if that doesn't work talk to a principal or teacher or friend or older sibling
2007-02-11 08:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by Diani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in 6th grade i was the new kid from out of state. These girls were mean as can be. The thing was they did not know me at all. After going to school with em for awhile, they knew me a little more but that did not stop em at all. So one day walking through the hall one of the girls said something to me off the wall, i walked up to her more mad than scared and let her know that i could care less about her or what she says because if she thought about it not many people liked her & her friends at alln i told her off in calm respective manner, made her even more mad at me but she left me alone so did her friends, forever
2007-02-09 06:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by laughalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls that make fun of people at that age are very insecure about themselves and feel like they need to be mean just to get attention. Trust me, I've been in both positions. If girls are being mean to you, just smile and walk away. This will really bug them because you're not giving them the response that they want. They want you to feel sad and angry at them. They think it's funny, powerful, etc, but really it's not. Don't let people like this bother you. I'm sure that they can be mean, but you just need to be a bigger person and tell them to leave you alone. Don't try to befriend them. They aren't worth it. Don't try to get back at them. It doesn't help. Just smile and walk away, or say, "thanks for the comment. I'll take it into consideration." Trust me, it pisses them off.
2007-02-09 05:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by amazing!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with mean girls is to ignore them. I don't condone violence but sometimes you moght have to stand up to the meanest one to get the respect that you deserve. Whatever you do please don't run from them or act scared. When they see that you are intimidated by them they will never leave you alone. Trust me, you have to stand up to the one that 's being the meanest. Once you break her down the others will not be a problem.
2007-02-09 05:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by teri d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Laugh at them, whatever they say to you. And remember that middle school may seem like a long and arduous time right now, but it's only a sliver of your life. So just laugh.
2007-02-09 05:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be prepared to stand up for yourself, but try to ignore them as much as possible.
2007-02-09 05:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, pretend they are not there until they touch or push you then push back. Ignore but dont let them walk over you either.
2007-02-09 05:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them they just want attention because of their insecurities. what ever you do don't get in to an argument with them thats what they want why should you give them what they want right. good luck
2007-02-09 05:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by JD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋