Me and my fiancee (getting married April 08) want to move to the bigger town about 30 mins away from where we are now. His 2 friends are also moving there. When we first talked about it they were going to get their own place and we would get ours. Me and him have been living together by ourselves for about 4 months now and it will be about a yr total when we actually move. Now my fiancee wants to have his two friends (maybe just one of them) move in with us and we all get a house at the new town because it will be cheaper. Idk if i want to do that because i'm used to it just being us two, we're getting married soon, and i don't really mind being the only girl living with 3 guys but it does factor in. What would you guys do and why?
2007-02-09 05:46:36 · 4 answers · asked by all4him 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO! This isn't a college buddy type situation anymore, you are going to be a married woman. It would be diff. if one of them needed to crash for a few weeks until he got back on his feet or something, but I wouldn't do something just because the 'rent would be cheaper' unless you guys simply can't make ends meet on your own. Marriage is a journey and life meant for the 2 of you, not friends too...you will need and WANT your space to be married, and having roomates just doesn't work. Just imagine if you get into an arguement - or if you want to just walk around naked...you can't do that with roomates. They will be privy to your most private moments, and I don't think marriage was designed for that. I personally would NOT do it.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-02-09 05:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get a friend of yours 'on the bus'.
AND since you are to share very much,not just goodies,you SHOULD set a ground rules.Or you risk winding up a household slave while the guys play.
A monthly more or less formal meeting is recommended.To deal with why no one else empty the dish washer,etc.
Avoid at all cost to be the grumpy victim in such event.Just leave the dirt as well.
Ive shared house 3-4 times over the years and i think its a way to regulate these things so when you have 'your week' you do your job,and they are doing there's theire week.
Perhaps it sound corny but i take it you love your bloke and the nag kills such things.Don't nag on them,its better to leave it as well.
Food money and split the shopping for grocery's even,
Its wise to set a sum to be paid of each every week or so for bread/milk/whatever you all anyway want.And share the burdens.
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2007-02-09 14:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by idiotjim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a voice in this or is it go along for the ride? tell him its your way or the highway then have a great weekend
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2007-02-09 14:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by ....... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with it
2007-02-09 13:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋