I mean, doesn't a man have the right to be insecure about certain things? Doesn't he know himself best and know what his strengths and his weaknesses are?
Wouldn't a guy who is not insecure at all be the type of person who is constantly lying to himself, since nobody is perfect and we all have REASONS to be insecure.
Aren't women insecure about some things, too? They worry about how their hair looks, or how they look in a pair of jeans or how they look without makeup etc.
Well then, don't men have a right to be insecure about how big their muscles are or if their hair is balding or if their bank account isn't big enough etc??
2007-02-09 05:41:08 · 8 answers · asked by Korny Kaucasian Kraker 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
The problem is when men are insecure, some have a tendancy to lash out at others instead of dealing with the insecurity head on. Sometimes their insecurities can be destructive to those around them. Sometimes it takes the form of trying to prove how great he is and show what he has in comparison to others.
It has been engrained in society for a man to feel to admit insecuity is to admit that he is weak. This is wrong. There is nothing wrong with being insecure. It's what makes us human. Insecurities are normal, for men and women. More men should be able to admit they have insecurities. I'm glad to see that you are doing that.
2007-02-09 06:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by ஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒஐ Vee ஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒஐ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women chose us after our survival power and to be worried is not one of those.
This is often not on the table and if just serve your anxiety or perhaps combined with 'safe' in the sense of staying power most women starts yawning and let the eyes wander.I know this isn't true about all women but for the most my years have taught me this.
And by the way KNOW yourself and don't worry about such you cant control or change,pick your battles with yourself or you both will end asking each other 'do i look fat in these'
No I'm joking,the bottom line that most girls need us there as strong when they is shaky,just as we need them to be warm when pain calls.And it does.Pain is to get our attention.And anxiety is a motor for development,growth.
By the way:
Muscles are outdated with 1500 year.
If you get bald,get bald!!
Bank account is always too small.
Pick your battles and i should chose the inner discussion WHO you are if i could chose again.
2007-02-09 06:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by idiotjim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it shows weakness... everyone has some insecurities but someone who is plagued by them would inadvertently scare other people off because they would spend their time worry about whats wrong with them instead of what the other person has on their mind or is talking about... women want a man who is confident and being confident doesnt mean that you dont have any insecurities it just means that you are happy with yourself how you are and dont worry too much about what everyone else things of you
2007-02-09 09:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Morganna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its true you have the right to be insecure and I don't find that it is bad a man is insecure its just woman tend to be more insecure and they need someone who at least appears insecure to help them feel better for themselves. Don't change just for a girl you have the right to the feelings you have.
2007-02-09 05:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jess_Eka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to be insecure, no one is a 100%. The question is, what will a person do about it? Will he/she continue to be insecure or will he/she improve things?
2007-02-09 05:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jola 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course men have the right to be insecure. We are all insecure about something or another.
HTH : )
2007-02-09 14:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the insecurity that bothers me. It is the refusal to take responsibility for it that bothers me. It isn't my responsibility to boost your confidence, inflate your ego, or kiss your bruised self-esteem and make it all better. Each person is responsible for their own short-comings, faults, and perceptions about themselves. If you are insecure about something, that is fine, but it's also your problem, not mine.
2007-02-09 06:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecure people sicken me. Too busy absorbed with their superfluous little problems, and screwing the moods of the people around them. If people have reassured you about something a million times and you are still moaning about it, then that makes you an utter and complete ******.
2007-02-09 05:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by Donna K 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋