Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughts out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to the time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him? I still enjoy having sex with him and enjoy making him dinners, spending nights at home alone but the smallest things are driving me crazy!This is my first non dramatic relationship where I actually trust the guy could this be why maybe cause it is so unfamiliar?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit....Thanks!
2007-02-09 05:38:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
omg obviously ur crazy hes perfect and ur using him like this if u dont love him then leave him u cant do this to him personally i think u need to forget about these "thoughts" u seem to me like u still love him just as much ur just confused cuz for once u found someone who is good to you!!!! he defintly is a keeper theres not many around like him anymore who would support their g/f after them tellin him they might not love them anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-09 06:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by PhotographyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. I thought I loved this guy to death, but then I realized that maybe it was just infatuation. This is a problem you have to solve for yourself. It sounds to me like you really do love this guy. Maybe you should spend some time away from him. If after a few days, you can't wait to call him, to see him and to hear his voice, then you do love him. If you don't even think about him and you realize you CAN live without him, then you don't need him as much as you thought.
2007-02-09 13:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Eazy Duz It 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a lot of what you are going thruough in this world,and you are very brave for posting it here for all to see even though its drawing the usual unkind remarks might need to seek a little more help from a doctor on this just my thoughts good luck
2007-02-09 14:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by ....... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to do with the anxiety....dont be so paranoid..you arent convincing yourself on purpose. your heart is convincing you that you are happy in your relationship
2007-02-09 13:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? YES or NO.
Go with the answer and quit questioning it.
2007-02-09 13:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obsessive -crazy...up your medication. How does your bf stand you?
2007-02-09 13:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your crazy how many times have you ask this questions i pity your boyfriend!
2007-02-09 13:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋