does divorce affect the family? why is it so and what emotional effect does it have on the family? what about psyschological effects and how can it be handled?
2007-02-09 05:36:03 · 14 answers · asked by me nyame ye Oye mame daa nyi O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a pointless question you ask, because it's something you don't have to worry about if you simply do not get divorced. Divorce = bad. Staying married = good.
2007-02-09 05:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you divorce it effects things you never even think about. During a divorce there is some one at fault, cheating, abuse, neglect etc. But one person usually causes the major problem to bring the relationship to an end. No fault there is no such thing.
People take sides, oh yes they do. Children play the parents against each other , the grandparents take sides, the aunts and uncles and friends. You end up losing 1/2 or more what you have worked for all your married life. You end up paying a mint to the lawyers to straighten it out. You end up sharing custody of the kids which never works out someone is always mad. You thinking the cheating only makes you happy , it destroys your life and everyone's life around you. It is like a snowball that just keeps picking up victims of your bad behavior. It reflects on everyone and pieces of it are like knives in the heart of your love ones. Divorce is the death of a family.
2007-02-09 06:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely divorce affects a family. Children tend to blame themselves for their parents breaking up, thinking if they had been "good" their mom and dad would still love each other. It also usually necessitates a move from the family home, so not only are children reeling from the blow of having their parents living apart, they also usually have to leave friends and their schools (if old enough). Many children (and adults) deal with depression when going through a divorce, its something that a wise parent will monitor closely. Of course, the parent is dealing with his or her own sets of issues, reduced family income, feelings of guilt and betrayal, on and on and on that can also lead to depression. Considering how the parents handle the custoday issues can be another land mine to handle. Some parents (the adults at least) do manage to maintain a decent amount of respect for each other, and realize that they should handle this maturely. Others decide to use the kids as pawns between the 2 of them, try to turn children against the other parent, attempt to thwart the other parents attempts to even visit (or parent) his or her children.
The best way to handle any negative psychological affects of divorce on children is a good family counselor, possibly even a psychiatrist. A short term round of antidepressants may be medically necessary, but most kids, with understanding parents, can bounce back relatively quickly. Parents do need to remember to treat each other with respect (which can be difficult) and to remember that their former spouse is STILL their child's mother or father. Handle all custody issues maturely and quickly. Reassure the children that each parent still loves them very much.
2007-02-09 05:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce causes depression for the separated couple. While going through a divorce, men and women are so self-absorbled that they can no longer attend to the needs of their children, which leads to emotional problems for kids. A child's world is shaken after a divorce. All of the security and safety that they felt in a home with a mother and father ends. That can have devastating effects on children.
2007-02-09 06:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce CAN be hard on a family but it can also be just what the family needs. I think your looking at it from one side. If 2 adults cant get along and just fight all the time and have children..Thats not a good enviroment for the kids to be in so divorce can very well be the answer. DIVORCE WAS THE ANSWER FOR MY FAMILY and one of the best decisions I ever made in life.
2007-02-09 05:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it affects the family. There is no way around it. Especially if you remarry and have had children with your ex. The best thing to do is to watch out for affects of alienation with your children and to be the better person and dont say ANYTHING negative about the other parent to the child. Other than that, just make sure the kids are adjusting well and make sure you are not neglecting them. But dont try to overcompensate for the missing parent. Kids can try to use this to their advantage.
There are so many issues to be addressed regarding this. There is really no way to answer this question without a specific situation.
2007-02-09 07:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are kids YES.. The adults know that it would be better in time.. I have been divorced for 3 years and my kids still ask why we can't be together as a family.I know that for the emotional part, every family is different but the kids are always the ones that feel it the most.
2007-02-09 05:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is tough on a family.When I went through a bad divorce with my ex wife it was very hard on my girls.Both of them were depressed for months,couldn't sleep at night and had many problems at school.They withdrew from many activities because so many people knew that their mother cheated and busted up our home.They didn't want to deal with all the nosey people that were asking questions.Many of the family members took sides with me and the kids which caused problems.It took about two years before both our families were ready to move forward.My kids still have some trust issues with their mother because of all the lying she did.Financially the divorce caused all kinds of problems.We had to split bills also had to relocate her.We had to work out so many details about the house we owned,cars and trucks and land.During and after all this I could have choked her many times because of what she done.
2007-02-09 07:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce effects everyone involved, children, in laws, spouses, children don't do well without a dad in the home, financially there is suffering too. there are no winners in a divorce, it hurts everyone involved, even friends who knew u as a couple. changes your entire life and not usually for the best, as changes are hard on everyone. best if at all possible to try to work it out first before considering divorce.
2007-02-09 05:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of stupid question is that????
Divorce is, by definition, the dismantling of a family.
Psychological effects = pain, rejection, misery, worthlessnees, fighting, children hating their parents and blaming themselves, financial ruin.....
Does that sound lousy enough for you? I only advocate divorce in the most hopeless of situations.
2007-02-09 05:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋