whats wrong with me?

Question

all i wanna do is make friends, preferably female cause i am married. Im 18...(19 in a few months) and im nice to everyone all the time and just smile. i try so hard to make friends but they are all so bitchy and i just feel like im running after people all the time and they are just loving it. what am i doing wrong? i text people, email people and they just never reply, women seem to just stick their noses up at me and i dont know why. please give me advice....oh and if you fancy getting in touch with me...please do im up to be friends with anyone kind hearted and friendly! xxx

Answer 1

Nothing is the matter with you. A lot of women are b****** because they are insecure. Maybe they are jealous. Who knows--just don't stop trying.

Answer 2

Rather difficult question to answer, when you don't know someone personally. But, in my own personal experiences I've learned over the years many women have an inferiority complex, which leads them to feel insecure with themself. Another women's beauty and/or charisma can trigger that complex, resulting in rejection of the woman who they feel threatened by. Could be why women won't respond to a mutual friendship with you. Another possibility, perhaps, you're too aggressive and too determined, giving ppl the impression or illusion you're controlling. There's also the possibility you may be attracting the wrong type of personality that doesn't mesh with yours. It's not easy in this day and age to find ppl who are "sincere," let alone "care." People don't trust so easily, any more. So, take comfort in knowing, you're not the only one whose having the same problem and things happen for a reason, sometimes, for our own protection. I'd make an effort to take "one" opportunity in extending myself as a potential friend. If they don't respond, then I'd move on (without animosity). Somewhere out there, you'll find a true friend and she'll be worth the effort & patience!
Good Luck, Friend!

Answer 3

Well you're looking for friends that's the problem, you don't look for anyone let them come to you. Sometimes the only friend you have is your husband. The women that you're going after are probably jealous of you. You need to meet young people. If you were in college it would be easier to meet the same people. Sign up for some classes, get a job, there are plenty of friendly, smart, nice girls there and that are around your age group. You definitely need to do something more than what you're doing right now. Good luck sweetie!

Answer 4

Perhaps you are trying to make friends with the wrong people.
Do you go to any centres that have a mother and child association? - Maybe you could try there and just sit quietly and somebody should come over to you and introduce you to the other mums and take it slowly from there. Another are could be (although you are a mum - and obviously busy) - local libraries hold book reviews and topics. If you could get one night out normally monthly by the way...you could go along there. It would help you to see how others put themselves across and would give you something to do for yourself i.e. reading. You are young and can still point yourself in new directions. Perhaps them all those people who seem to be being rather nasty to you will take heed in their actions then....Good Luck and keep trying .

Answer 5

In the first place you did the right thing by getting married and 2. forget about what people think about you.3.Stop writing all those who don't replay.4.disregard those who snob you because could be that they are jealous of you .5and about needing a friend look around your neighbourhood for someone who is being equally shun.you are not a social outcast but special and if you would like try going to church or reading a bible.

Answer 6

I have the same problem my husband says that I am intimidating I give off a strong presence, I think people can take me as I am. If I like someone it is ok but if I dont, I dont have time for them. You are still young dont worry, you have to be patient, one good friend is all you need.

My best friend is just the same as I am she does not take any **** from anyone, some times it is a bit one sided but she does have a baby and a job.Iff people want to be friends with you they should take you as you are, dont change for anyone. You say women stick their nose up at you, I have ex friends like that who think they are somebodys, maybe you are better off without THEM. Or maybe they are just sussing you out.

Answer 7

i feel the same way,i cant make friends either its very hard I'm 18 to and ill be 19 in 5 months .I'm single dough not even a boyfriend its not that I'm ugly or stupid .i guess is just that i grew up to fast and don't want I'mmature friends.I'm not picky ill be any ones friend i rather have friends with the same interest so i would get along better. im in a alternative high school so i could finish quicker i want to do something with my life,like go to college if i do go hopefully i Can meet someone like me,you should try and meet people with your interests in which they can be with you have fun.dont go after people who ignore you .

Answer 8

I think you're looking in the wrong places. You say you're nice to everyone all the time, so maybe you're just...well, a doormat. You have to stand up for yourself, you know; don't just let people step all over you and take advantage of you.

Also, they might sense desperation in you. I know that people have tried MUCH too hard to be my friends and it honestly can come off as creepy or obsessive. Just be polite and friendly, and most importantly patient, and don't try too hard. If that still doesn't work, then you just have to keep trying--look in places where you might find people with similar interests (if you like books, for example, you might want to try joining a book group).

Answer 9

I think you're the kind of person who has a heart of gold and is only trying to do the right thing. Unfortunately people will treat you like a doormat and sometimes (sadly) find your constatnt upbeat attitude to be irritating. Maybe you need to be a little bit more cynical and hard nosed and people will repsect you more when they realise that you will not keep taking **** from them?
I do empathise with your situation though. Keep smiling !! :)
I'm on messenger as well...

Answer 10

Honestly?..............
Absolutly nothing. If people don't want to be friends then thats their problem n not yours. i know from personal experience that it can b hard to make new friends especially when you have had bad experiences in the past but don't give up. if you feel that you are trying too hard then take a step back and let them do some of the running. True friendship is equal.

Answer 11

you dont make good friends by sending lots of texts and emails, you should share some day to day common stuff to make good friends. try to take part in some activities, join some class to learn something new, that will be a good opportunity to get some friends. when someone gets lots of text from a person that doesnt make them think they might be his friend, you should be yourself in a surrounding where there are other people and you will make some good friends.
good luck