i had a BestF for 17 yrs, in the last 3 yrs we made friends with these 2 other girls. everything was ok , until one week we decided to make plans for a girls night, since we hadn't had one in a long time. On the night we planned this , one of the girls decided that her boyf was going to come , i was against this cause i know her BF, he would end up coming with a whole group of guys , and what would be the point of girls night out? when i expressed this my BestF clearly said to me , well her BF could come and you come another day. I was really hurt because as my friend i felt that she had choosen sum guy she just met , over me who she knew for yrs. When i confronted the situation harsh words were exchanged in the group and we have not spoken since. my problem is that although we have not spoken in almost a yr , i can't help but wonder about our friendship, and even though i was the hurt one i still feel bad.
please advice !!!
2007-02-09 05:34:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to be honest! Before the argument happened i was begining to feel like as if my friends weren't really friends, as far as lies, hypocracy ,etc. I'm not really trying to rekindle the friendship , its that i am a good hearted person and i feel as if i need some type of closure , we were friends for so many years , and the way we stopped talking was on bad terms. Maybe the reason that i am thinking about the friendship is because i need the closure.
It was her b-day a month ago , i e-mailed one of the girls that was in the group with us and asked her for her address since my friend moved from her previous add, that way i could send her a b-day card , and state that even though we were not talking anymore , i have no hard feelings for her when she replied back to me , she totally bit my head off because i mispelled her name. This made me realize that these girls hate me, mind you i wasn't the one who messed up.
so how do i obtain my closure ?
2007-02-09 09:13:23 · update #1
Clearly you're not getting the apology you've waited for. You'll have to ask yourself if the friendship worth letting go of that incident (i.e. not holding a grudge, not waiting for that apology, just making peace with it) and you taking the first step to getting back together with your former best friend or do you want to call it quits? You could just pick up the phone and call her.
2007-02-09 05:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are already hurt, to decide whether to end the friendship or not really depends on how she is a friend in OTHER factors. Does she talk down to you? Does she listen mostly everytime you need to talk to does she change the subject back to your or belittle your situation? Is she clingy and stalkerish when you dont hang out with her, yet hypocritical when she doesnt invite YOU places and YOU get upset? These are questions to ask yourself...
2007-02-09 13:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww, sad. I'm so sorry! You should call her up, write a letter, or something (no texting or cheapo tactics like that). A 17-yr friendship is not something one should lose over a stupid argument. Apologize to her, and tell her that you are willing to forgive and forget! If she doesn't consent, you will have to wait longer, but at least she will know that you are there if she needs you. I hope things get better! ;)
2007-02-09 13:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um, what friendship?
2007-02-09 13:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋