From my searches, I have seen that most of the homosexual people are, either sexually abused in their childhood, or that they've been given a different sexual orientation during their upbringing. And with these, if they are also the victims of rejection, chances are seen really high that they would choose a Gay/Lesbian lifestyle. So, I have come to this understanding that Homosexuals are not born in this way, but are created by the society. How far do u agree? Or what do say abt this in the light of your experience?
Friends, Im asking this question with all due respect. No offences intented. Im a liberal human being. Thanks.
2007-02-09 05:30:52 · 27 answers · asked by Sergia Mary 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ive got some pretty amazing ans. Iv been called a stupid, Fundie, pompous, judgemental and hypocritical above all. Its funny, coz Iv always been the one who supported gay people's rights and accepted them for who they are. Didnt anyone notice? I used 'Friends' and not 'sinners'. When I shared my knowledge , I never said that it's the ultimate truth and never tried to convince anyone too. When I got an information I wanted to check out its validity by asking to the people concerned. Thats the wrong I did. And Trish, u have a point there, I wished to know abt homosexuals becoz I wanted to know the truth, and I didnt wish to pass judgements as people who are ignorant would do. Anyway thanks everyone once again.
Please read through the site and give me ur opinion.
http://www.anotherway.com/menus/pages.html
2007-02-09 06:55:00 · update #1
In short, what you are asking is "whether being gay is nurture or nature."
Speaking from experience:
__I was not abused physically or otherwise
__I did not have this sexuality forced on me
__I was not rejected by my peers - I was usually the popular dude in school and still tend to be in most settings
__I had a good supporting loving relationship with both my parents and siblings, and still do
__I can remember being attracted to the same sex before I could reach the door-knob to our house, although at the time I did not understand what it meant.
__I was created by God the way I am, despite what some other fellow Christians may say or scripture they may quote out of context (see some of the other responses above and below that I'm sure will occur regarding "abomination of being gay (Lev 18:22) by people who haven't really read the scriptures or understand the context of the scriptures they quote.
...Gotta go, I have to go take off my shirt. I just read the label, and it's a poly-cotton blend, which the scripture says is an "abomination" (Lev 19:19)
....oh, burp..... excuse me, but I just had shellfish for lunch, guess I'm going to hell for that one too, because eating it is an "abomination". (Lev 11:10)
2007-02-09 05:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by talldude 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why is everyone so curious about homosexuals... seriously get over it! We are JUST people, and regardless if we were sexually abused growing up, given a sexual orientation during our upbringing, or we were born that way is really no ones business because either way, it's not changing anything. It actually HAS been researched and also stated as a FACT that in FACT some ARE born that way!!! I mean seriously, who did you research? 2% of your community, maybe people at your school... ??? It does NOT matter how many questions are asked, how many people are against it, or how many times your protest against it, WE ARE STILL GOING TO BE GAY/LESBIAN! It seems as if you are attracted to the same sex yourself... curious enough to do research on it??? Then post it on yahoo??? Hmmm... Before you judge gay people, take a look at you, can't you find something better to do??? Point the finger, slow to understand, arrogance and ignorance go hand and hand!!!
2007-02-09 05:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did ask with truth and kindness! However, you asked in a "small range" too. "The truth" for me is I can never remember not being gay. I knew I was different at age 5 when I realized boys were pretty and girls were, just girls. I knew enough to keep my mouth shut because of how people treated me when I said that. So, I guess what I'm saying is, "as a 5 year old child with happy brothers and sisters," I don't fit your category. Sorry, but that's why everyone was being rude. Your trying to fit an entire category of people (say straight) into a "narrow" range of behavioral upbringing and it just won't work.
Sorry, but not everyone was abused or unhappy as a child.
2007-02-09 13:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never known a gay person to be sexually abused in their childhood. In regards to being given a different sexual orientation during their upbringing, how would that work... people who are gay were raised to be straight.
Regarding your searches, if you would have searched for some facts instead of for a desired outcome, you may have run into some facts such as these:
http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6519
http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/mg18424690.800
http://www.livescience.com/humanbiology/060224_gay_genes.html
http://www.forbes.com/forbeslife/health/feeds/hscout/2006/06/26/hscout533470.html
I also looked at that website you mentioned and noticed how John Paulk is highlighted. He is the so-called ex-gay who still goes to gay bars. Paulk said he was only at a gay bar to use the bathroom despite talking to other people and offering drinks to others.
http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/Paulk-Southern%20Voice.html
As you can see, people do not become homosexual, they just are; and those who say they are ex-gay either were not gay to begin with or are liars.
2007-02-09 08:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that animals have homosexual tendencies?
How many male dogs and cats have you seen try to jump one another? (Numerous times, for me.)
I think your question is quite arrogant, for one, ignorant, for another, and not well researched before asking such a question.
Besides, 99% of all homosexuals that seek therapy to try to "switch to heterosexual ways" end up depressed, lost, and lack identity. Also, it's unsuccessful and they go back to living out their natural lives.
As a heterosexual female, I resent your question, it is pompous, above all else. Who are you to judge and have all the answers? You definitely would not being saying this if you were homosexual. How can a homosexual like having to deal with broken relationships with their parents and public humiliation once they come out of the closet? How can it be a choice? The humiliation is just too great! Honestly, I couldn't deal with the humiliation, but I would not want to live a double life, either. You have to walk in their shoes to know what they're feeling.
You're truly pompous!! You MUST be a Fundie, the most pompous, judgemental and hypocritical of them ALL!!!
Additions:
I applaud Milkbone for thoroughly explaining the reason why men prefer men and do not prefer women. It's refreshing to learn this from the person, himself.
No, I do not take offense.
Thank you for sharing.
2007-02-09 05:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Where in the world have you been searching, child? It sounds like the source of your "research" is a highly biased sample. Typically, none of this is true, but only "theories" put forward by people who aren't gay and have never known anyone who was gay and perhaps have an anti-gay agenda, or perhaps are therapists who only see people who have had those experiences, which, as I said, is a highly biased and atypical sampling.
If you did your research here, where most of the participants are mainstream gay and provide first-person testimony, you'll see that we were simply born that way.
(Later) Aha, your "source" is "Another Way Out," "sponsored by Christians who seek to help people desiring to change their sexual orientation." As I suspected, not an unbiased sampling. I rest my case.
2007-02-09 05:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nothing happened to me growing up, and no one gave me my orientation. I wasn't rejected, I did the rejecting. My orientation just happened naturally, as it was supposed to. Preprogrammed.
That being said the reason I am homosexual is because women in general drive me nuts. The sight of breasts and vaginas is repulsive. The thought of sleeping next to such a creature cursed with those objectional body malformations is enough to make me want to hurl chunks.
I'm saying this with all due respect. No offense intended.
2007-02-09 05:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where your searches were done...but No gay person I know fits your criteria...no childhood abuse...no being given a different sexual orientation in childhood (WHAT? like being given a birthday present). I assure you that I have never been rejected sexually in my life. We did not choose to become gay..it is what we are....I think you need to do more and more updated research...I've never seen research results like you cite...not since the 1940's.
2007-02-09 06:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never been abused in anyway. I just have always been attracted to other guys, much like a heterosexual is naturally attracted to the opposite sex. It's nothing I feel any conscious effort or control or choice over. Nor do I feel like I should try to change. (as I have when I was younger because I felt so much pressure to be "normal")
For me, it's not a choice.
2007-02-09 10:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by izaqblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you might have a point, but i have to disagree that most people become homosexual through that. You must know that people become gay as a choice. Some of us do it for our own reasons.
I myself decided to venture into the world of homosexuality because of the amazing amount of married couples that have broken up because either one of them has discovered he/she was gay. I rather face it now, not when i grow up, not when i have any regrets. I'd rather just go through all the pain now.
That's why, i have come up with the conclusion, that many people do actually regret not being gay instead of being gay. Because if you were, and you got married to the wrong sex, you'd have that endless void within you, the one that yearns for the companionship of the equal sex.
People become homosexual because of many reasons, and not only because they were sexually abused, that would be very narrow thinking indeed.
It makes my heart glad that people today are actually curious and concerned about the people around them, although little, but enough to fill the heart's content.
2007-02-09 05:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by IanTan 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋