I realize that twice a week is a lot compared to some relationships specifically my last one but I still cannot seem to get enough. I am in my mid-forties and really thought my sex drive would have diminshed by now.
2007-02-09 05:26:30 · 27 answers · asked by David 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is it asking so much, ladies? For crying out loud, you probably watch 1-2 hours of tv a night, or chat with your girlfriends, or something.
Is 30-60 minutes a night of fun sex not more important to your marriage than catching American Idol?
Jeez I mean really. Is it asking a lot? Sure. But don't you get something out of it? A happy husband? Orgasms for yourself? Feeling attractive?
Life could be so much worse than having a husband who wants to have lots of sex.
HERE IS A FACT LADIES: if he wants it 7x a week and only gets it 2x a week - he is being denied 5/7 times - 71% of the time.
No man will stay happy being denied 71% of the time. Calling him a jerk won't change that.
2007-02-09 05:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different, so maybe for you once a day is good, and for her twice a week is good. So what do you do? You two need to sit down, talk, and find out how to come up with some kind of agreement.
The key on a good relation is communication. After that, you get love and the will to please and give everything to your partner without asking anything in return. That is true love.
But you can’t pretend to be happy if you are not. So maybe she could try to have a little more sex with you, or if she is not really in the mood (because she has the right too) then she can always offer to play around with you. She could do a hand job, or give you oral if she likes it.
On the other hand, you also need to try to hold it sometimes. If you had sex yesterday, today maybe you can go and do something romantic for her. The next thing you know is that she might jump over you and make love to you! If you give in a little, and she does it too, you two will find out that both can be happy and make each other happy without getting frustrated or uncomfortable.
Also, try to please her more often, forget about you sometimes, and focus on please her all the way, romantically, and sexually, even if it means you will not have an orgasm that day. She will appreciate that, and probably do the same for you the day you less expect it. And trust me, you will be in heaven when that happens (just like she was when you did it to her).
Good luck, have fun, and make lots of love to your wife (not just sex, LOVE).
2007-02-09 06:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand it, Viagra and all those other pills simply help you get an erection, it doesn't make you want sex. Plus taking them regularly and you don't have any erection issues is only going to do harm to yourself long term. You'll start to need those pills to get an erection and will eventually need higher doses according to articles I've read so you can take that with a grain of salt. I believe 3-5 times a week should be a good compromise, but I do believe in satisying your spouse as much as you can. Before looking to take pills perhaps you should improve your diet and get into better shape if that's the case. Or even try sex toys to aid the situation. Does your wife work? If she doesn't perhaps she can find a hobby or some sort of interest that can occupy her time more. For 2 adults working and strapped for time raising kids, expecting it more than 1x a day is unreasonable which is why I assume she's not working.
2016-05-24 01:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really an individual question. No, I wouldn't say that you are wrong. Let's just say that for the sake of your relationship a compromise may be needed. I will admit though, you are smokin at 45 to want it everyday. I can only imagine that you were the bomb in your 20's. Talk with your wife and let her know that you need to make this connection with her and that you are willing to compromise a bit. But, I think 3 times a week should suffice.
2007-02-09 05:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jaysgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would rather have really super hot kinky sex with my wife 2-3 times a week than just average sex every day. My advice is to make the sex with your wife last as long as possible and make it as enjoyable as possible so that she'll want to do it more and more. And on the days that she's not in the mood or too tired from last night......that's what online porn and some hand lotion is for!
2007-02-09 05:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not asking for too much, but take in consideration her feelings about this situation. You can work things out. For instance, try having sex 5 times a week for one week, and then the next week for twice a week. That way you both are happy. Hope I helped!
2007-02-09 05:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are normal, as a man. But you also have to realise that she is not a machine, she is a human being, your partner and your wife and lover. You have to excite her and get her really interested,because thats how women are. They are not easily aroused, like men.
Furthermore, whatever you do she would not be able to keep pace with you in the urge. Hence, from time to time go for your hand if you feel teally wanting it and she is not in the mood or cannot be excited.
All the best!
2007-02-09 05:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you want to have sex w/ your wife that much. You sound like my husband! But, remember that men and women are wired a LITTLE differently. Between the stresses of work, home, raising kids, etc., women get a little tired from time to time. We usually feel like we have to take care of everyone and solve everyone's problems, so needless to say, we're just plain worn out! Remember that sex starts OUTSIDE the bedroom. If you want to romance your wife, help out more w/ the kids, volunteer to clean the house, do the laundry, etc. She'll feel loved and appreciated...and maybe a little frisky. ;)
2007-02-09 06:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by justme75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twice a week is not alot to ask for. but you need to keep in mind that your wife doesn't feel the same and that's OK too! You both should talk about this and come up with a compromise.
2007-02-09 05:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a day is asking a lot. I'm sorry. But, the older we are, the more responsibilities we have, are there kids involved, etc. I would be happy with twice a week if I were you. If not, there's always your hand. You should feel yourself lucky. There's one guy on here who hasn't had it all for years from his wife.
2007-02-09 05:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋