My fiance and i are going to be getting married in May 2008 and we were going to move in together now but we have church friends and some family that are not ok with the idea. I live with my parents but i have to stay in the livingroom on an air mattress cuz there are no extra bedrooms (they think it's fine for us to live together). He is staying at a chruch friends house and they don't agree with us moving in together but they expect him to move out pretty soon. Neither one of us have enough money to live alone so.....? We have been told that we need bible scripture to back ourselves up as to why it is ok to live together before marriage. Anyone have any scriptures or advise on this sticky situation?
2007-02-09 05:24:37 · 16 answers · asked by bctreefrogs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should make your own decisions instead of worrying about others. Esp. if YOUR family is ok with it, we can't go around getting every ones approval, because guess what, everyone is different. Based on my experience however, I would suggest living together before marriage. It is the only way to know if you can stand the test of time. I don't know any scripture in the bible to quote you, but times change, and God knows our hearts. Good luck.
2007-02-09 05:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not read any scripture that says you should not live in the same home before you are married.
There are scriptures that say you should not have sex before you are married.
Could you live together and not have sex? Maybe you could sleep in seperate quarters? You could use this as an opportunity to get to know each other better without doing anything that is a sin.
2007-02-09 14:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not OK to search the bible for an answer that you want to hear - meanwhile ignoring the answers that you don't want to hear. That is just ignoring the bible. No, there is not going to be a scripture like that.
Maybe it's not OK in the bible to sleep together. This is a case of economic expediency. That's no big deal though... you don't need to have sex, just get a place together and sleep in separate rooms.
Also, it's OK to tell your friends to clam up and mind their own business. Sometimes it's important to do that in order to live your own life.
2007-02-09 13:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by rambling vine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friends who married Adam and Eve? You both LOVE each other that's what is important and since you bring up church, if you are both true to each other you are not doing anything wrong, after your friends fail to tell who married Adam and EVE ask them to find anything to show that you cannot live together, they won't be able to. In todays world it is smart to live together first to find out if you to can live together married, it works out then theres a party if not there is a parting.Opinions are OK but it is you and you Fiance who matter the most to each other, one cannot live their life in the eyes of another. I personally do not believe in religion, no offense I am a spiritual person.
2007-02-09 13:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer this on the basis of any religious morality, but I think living with someone before marriage is the only way to see them in all their glory so to speak.If more people shared a bed for a few months before marriage, we would have a signifigant drop in divorce rates.
2007-02-09 14:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Pimpstick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not a religious person, but i do have a great social IQ...i just moved in with my fiancee...
the desicion has proven itself to be a great one...sure we have had some very serious fights, but we love each other and see this as an opportunity to really test our love and our ability to handle very 'couple' stressful situations...
with the divorce rate thes days, you need to know before marriage whether you guys have what it takes to be in close quarters together and deal with all that is involved with cleaning, money management, and stress...
forget about what those others think, be a good person and i believe God has alot of other flagrant sinners to deal with, than two people inlove playing house...
good luck
2007-02-09 13:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by boosted 1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible was written by man, therefore inherently flawed in translation etc. If you believe in God and have your own personal relationship with God , then do what you feel is right in your heart. Don't make excuses or look for reasons. The two of you make the decision based on your personal beliefs and stand by that decision. Every ones personal beliefs and ideas of God are a little different, do what you feel is right.
2007-02-09 13:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by EGOman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sort of church do you belong to? Does it govern all aspects of your personal life? Will you be kicked out of this church or shunned unless you come up with the correct bible verses? Ultimately you two have to do what you think is right, and your parents don't seem to have a problem with it. Make up your own mind.
2007-02-09 13:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live your own life, sweety. Have him get a two bedroom and set yourself up it the other room. What you two behind closed doors is your business, stop telling everyone at church. If they can't keep their nose out of it, remind them who the judge in your life is. My daughter had the same problem and they ended up switching churches because the members at her old church wanted to judge. It's not there place.
2007-02-09 13:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Baw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need bible scripture to back it up????? You do not need to back up anything to anyone! They are not living your life. You have to live your life the way that you see, not to their expectations! If they don't like it....tuff (unless they want to pay both your bills)! What matters most is the love you have for each other, focus on that and live your lives.
2007-02-09 13:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋