2007-02-09 05:14:12 · 14 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is really real and i wish i didn't hit me this hard.
2007-02-09 05:19:05 · update #1
Why do I want this relation? Becoz I love her and that is why her loveletter to her classmate after 14 years of marriage and two kids bore through my heart. We had tough time and she never shared any of the financial burden, nor her parents though they could. I always asked her to follow my way than side with them. Money is never an issue for me as I consider taking dowry asworse than running a brothel. Now, It looks like she used me, but she still says that she loves me.
2007-02-09 05:27:35 · update #2
Where is your self-respect? You wife and in-laws don't respect you because you are a wuss. It doesn't matter that you love her anymore. It is about you holding on to what dignity you have left. Cut you losses and move on dude if you can't get her to choose you over the wishes of her parents as well as atone for her transgressions.
I don't like saying things like this. Man to man, women don't respect men they can walk all over and he does nothing to protect his own honor. She has no honor and can find none in you. She probably does love you but waiting for you to stand up to her and her parents.
She is screaming for a real man in her life that can give her real guidance and direction. She obviously don’t have full trust in her parent’s opinion. She is hunting for a real man while hoping the man she loves (you) get a back bone before she has to give on up you. Stand up to the parents, stand up to her, and make her proud in choosing you over her family wishes.
You are just as responsible for what is transpiring in your relationship. Always, I mean always, choose honor over love and all will be fine. There is no dishonor in accepting the woman you love back in your life as long as it is done on your terms. You have to make it clear she has to regain your trust and it won't happen over night. You have to become very decisive in your action in how you deal with any situation in life. If she shows any sign of the same behavior, you have to end it not matter how you feel about her to keep your honor and self-respect intact.
TS
2007-02-09 06:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't continue in this kind of relationship when her parents are cheering her along and advising her to do it. think u need to be planning your next move which should be to get away from her and her parents. if her parents don't like u, they are going to keep advising her to leave u and eventually she will, so the best advice i could tell u is to file for divorce and accept things as they are. if her parents think that cheating is right this could be why she has no morals today, she is what she has been taught in life.
2007-02-09 05:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. Pack your wife's things and put them in the front yard. Then call her parents and congratulate them on getting their wish, and to please come pick up her things and make a room for their daughter in her house because she is unwelcome in yours.
Broken hearts mend. The devestating effect to your self esteem and self respect will take years to mend. Start now.
There is not a woman on the planet worth this pain. And, there are a lot of women on this planet who would love to make you happy. Find them, and tell your cheating wife to take her classless act back to the streets, where she obviously learned her morals.
2007-02-09 05:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do need to get out of this relationship. She has no respect for you and apparently her parents don't either. I bet you deserve better than this. Take the leap and leave. You'll be much happier in the long run.
2007-02-09 05:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we need more information but why would you want to stay. Your wife is not happy which is why her parents want her to get a divorce and which is why she is seeing someone else, you are not happy. What you have doesn't even sound like a marriage.
Besides, you can love someone and not be able to live with them.
2007-02-09 05:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by ciao_gina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Have you tried going to a therapist to help you let go of this and see how you will be better off without this mess. If her parents want her out and she stays- Will you be able to be around them and not hold a grudge against them?
2007-02-09 05:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by ednolb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you want it to work, it doesn't look like that's gonna be the case.It sounds like the water is up to your neck and you need to find higher ground.The damage has been done.Could you just forget and forgive in this situation.....I doubt it.Man if you got the in-laws on ya, you are done for anyway.Good luck.
2007-02-09 06:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the heck out of there! Why allow that? She obviously does not love or respect you as hard as it may be to accept. Move on........find a real woman, someone who will love, adore, respect and only give herself to you! You deserve that!!
Good luck,
Tori
2007-02-09 05:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding! Screw her cuase she has already screwed with other guys. Seriously..why would you want to be with a women who fools around with other men and the parents absolutely don't agree on you guys together. Screw her!
2007-02-09 05:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by The Lovely Shannon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO LONGER!!!!!! You should leave. If shes unhappy and you're unhappy and not willing to attempt to fix this marriage. Leave.
Good Luck with this!!!!!
2007-02-09 05:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by AE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋