Especially if they're married? I've been called selfish, unusual, weird and told, "oh, you'll change your mind" - I WON'T! Nothing against women who do want it, I admire them - I just have never wanted that and don't see why people think ALL women should. Anyone else had this problem?
2007-02-09 05:12:53 · 32 answers · asked by ? 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Oh god, yes. Me personally, I don't like children and have absolutely no desire to have one. It seems to me that some people think that the only thing a woman is good for is breeding. In my opinion, this world is way to messed up to bring a kid into. Plus, I'm just too darn selfish with my time and my money to waste it all on a kid. But apparently I'm a "bad" woman for feeling this way.
2007-02-09 05:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by ketchikan_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was also exactly the same as you but accidently got pregnant while I had an IUD and was quite far gone before I found out, so I decided to keep the baby (girl) and because I didn't want to have an only child then 18 months later I had another girl, I was 36 when I had the first one and it's been hard because I've never been into kids and am still not really the mumsy type and I used to find it hard to take them to the park and do kid's things with them because basically I felt I could be doing something more important. Also I could never get into the mother/baby groups and all that rubbish. As they get older I wish I could turn back the clock and have enjoyed them as babies instead of being stressed out the whole time, because when I look at their photos I can't remember them being so small, the time has just gone by so fast, they are 10 and 9 now.
2007-02-09 05:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats the irritating thing about people, they judge. I always expressed my liking of ultra modern furniture and all I got was you will get bored of it after a while. I said I might not be have the marriage material genes and they said you will grow out of it. Guess what, I didnt.
Its so easy to just say oh you will change you will this and that whereas I believe that some of us are designed for certain things better than others.
I think it would be exhausting explaining your point of view to people, just live your life the way you please, and as far as the nosey people go, either ignore them or be prepared with some strong comebacks.
2007-02-09 10:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive experienced this and its so IRRITATING. I like and work with children but I dont know if i want any myself, yet people keep asking when Im going to have children.
I think people assume that women want babies because we live in a very conformist society and people get scared of anyone who doesnt conform to what they perceive as "normal" or "natural" behaviour.
Everyone deserves happiness and if yours lies in not having children then dont worry about what other people think. Personally, I like giving the children back to their parents at the end of the day.
2007-02-09 07:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by stariuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the same, my situation is slightly different but everyone expects you to have children, by everyone i mean family . I have friends who arent or dont want to have children and most have very good reasons and one of them is because they cant see a child in the life they have like they want to enjoy there own life before having children or just arent very keen on children and there are people in this world who dont like kids !! strange as it may seem. Other just dont want kids because they dont and it is not selfish or weird it is very normal - i myself dont feel i want kids at the moment because im still not adult enough to have the responsibility of having a child which i think is a good reason and failing that i would just tell them to sod off and worry about there own lives and not yours. by the way i am 31 and i have been living with someone for 10 years and we are very happy i have a dog and that is just enough for me. hope this helps :0)
2007-02-09 06:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by corrinab2705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are.
If you're under 35, I'll bet a large sum of money you'll be wanting a baby one of these days.
I had my family early, and many of my friends said I was nuts and they would never want children.
All my friends now have children - apart from the ones who left it too late and are now really sad they made the wrong decision.
Though I do have one childless friend who is quite happy. That's one out of maybe 20 or 30.
But I hope you get what you want out of life - whatever that may be.
Just don't let people nagging at you affect your decision either way.
2007-02-09 05:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes they do assume that. I don't want babies- although i seem to have become the baby sitter of the world- for my younger brother, then my nephew and all the associated kids- and i love them- but bring a kid in to this world when all you can guarantee them 100% is death- no thanks. I love kids but don't want any of my own- and hey what do all the parents say to me - i wish i'd never had them- or - can you baby sit them? or if i had my time over. They are not puppies- they are for real and need lots of love and attention- do not take this lightly- some people are great parents and good luck to them- but not having kids is no sin- having them and screwing with their minds or neglecting them- IS!!
2007-02-09 05:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by brainlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I've been through the same thing myself. Women's traditional role has always been that of mother and wife and a lot of people can't let go of that image.
when I hit my 20's and realized that I didn't HAVE to have a baby, I was relieved. I had never wanted one and still don't.
2007-02-09 05:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Chanteuse_ar 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've had people say things to me like 'your time will come' and 'don't leave it too late'. I love kids but have NEVER been that fussed about having my own. It's a huge committment and I think that too many people have kids without thinking at ALL about what it entails. I salute you girl!!
2007-02-09 11:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by jammydodger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree there is so much i want to accomplish and thats just not one of them... i respect those that choose that for themselves, i love children-but i would be selfish to have a baby because its not my choice im afraid i would be resentful ,i couldnt live with that feeling-im in my early 30s and people ask all the time..so when are you going to have a baby..i say " when are you going to be ready to take care of it? jk
2007-02-09 05:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋