should he intrust in his will an equal amount between his children from a prior marraige and her? Should she have the passwords and secret info about the stuff he owned before the marraige? Is it about money or trust? This has nothing to do with money or things but about trust and equality within a partnership to me. I appreciate all views and openedness.
2007-02-09 05:11:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WELL YES!! ONE A MAN AND A WOMAN GET MARRIED SHE TAKES HIS LAST NAME.. THAT WOULD MAKE YOU AND YOURS FAMILY MEMBERS. AND YOU AND YOUR HUSBANDS AS ONE.. AND YES YOU SHOULD HAVE EVERYTHING BUT I MEAN EVERYTHING PASSWORDS AND BANK PAPERS ALL OF THAT AT YOUR DISPOSAL.. ITS JUST THE WAY IT IS..
2007-02-09 07:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the wife is actually the 1st of next to kin as the law sees it .then the kids, the parents and then the siblings . you as his wife have more right to anything he has than any one of his children . unless it is stated In a will. and even then you can fight it.as far as the financial part of taking care of his kids well he should . how ever if they are under age they can receive ssi benefits ( Savior benefits )up to the age of 19 or until they graduate form school which ever it may be now.
as far as you knowing all the passwords and such well that is problem that was there when you got married and you need to figure out what is and why he is not thinking of you after is death . that is a big problem and you need to find the answer to it and no one on here can give it to you it has to come from him!
good luck
2007-02-09 05:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far as his will goes, the wife should get the majority of the money because it is half hers to begin with. If there is really a concern about providing financially for the kids from the previous marriage (for some reason, their mother doesn't have a job???) then the man should have life insurance and leave some of that to them, but the marital assets to the wife.
She should not have his email/voicemail/myspace/etc passwords, however she should have enough information to do what's needed on accounts. For example, she should be able to ask for an account balance with utility companies so she can pay them, her name should be on that kind of account. Generally speaking, her name should also be on all bank accounts. If not, she should be listed as the beneficiary of the accounts (including 401k, CDs, etc).
2007-02-09 05:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he had prior to marrying you is none of your business. He may and should write his Will any way he chooses. You do not need passwords and "secret info" from before you were married.
Trust is earned and as a second wife, you are never completely equal if he has children from a previous marriage.
2007-02-09 05:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There should be no secrets, regarding material possessions between a husband and wife. Period. Whatever falls within that perimeter, no matter what the time frame of it's factuality, should be not only discussed openly but documented and in the hands of an objective (read attorney) party's capable and discreet hands.
That isn't to say that you are entitled to anything at all that he owned prior to his marriage to you, that is just to say that there should never be any secrets about it, and therefore, no surprises.
2007-02-09 05:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you accept him in marriage, it means that you accept him fully from head to toe. Anything that belongs to hin belongs to you and vice versa. It is not only material things but also your whole being as a woman. Respact and trust him to the best of your individuality and you can find fulfillment in him. Don't ever thought of something that can hurt his ego.
Partnership and marriage is a different things. In marriage, your family is his family and his family is your family. Nothing can ever break the bondage that you both create if you entrust yourself to him. Love him to the fullest and you can find happiness to the fullest. Man loves a woman...and a woman loves his man.
2007-02-09 05:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I discussed this very thing with my new wife. It is a matter of trust and love and I believe that you would want to try and help all your loved ones in the event something horrible happend to you. You should also be able to trust that your new wife didn't mary you in hopes of your dieing and that she would understand any priority you place on taking care of "Your" children. Talk openly and freely with her about your feelings on this.
2007-02-09 05:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the wife would be considered her husbands family member. Should he add her to his will? That is up to him, she does not have to be on his will. Should she know passwords etc...only if he so chooses to give them to her. Unless they are passwords etc..to accounts you both share together. Anything before your marriage you don't need to know "secret" info on..
2007-02-09 05:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fair for him to equally distribute his estate to his kids. My neighbor was trusting and didn't draw up a will. She died and her husband inherited 100% of their property. Two months later he died. His children split their estate and her children got nothing.
By the way, she owned the house before they were married so as I see it, her kids really got screwed!
2007-02-09 05:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question has nothing to do with being your husbands family, You are insecure in your marraige . Why else would you want to know about his passwords and secret things he did when he wasn't with you .
Deal with your insecurities
2007-02-09 05:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋