My wife has no libido and I have not had a sex life in years, she is very beutiful (when she wants to be), but at this point I don't even find her attractive because she gets so mad at me, I mean the women can just fly off the handle somtimes. I dunno what do you got
2007-02-09 05:09:23 · 16 answers · asked by Phillip P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get her a box of libido on valentine day
2007-02-10 23:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage should be like that and you should not settle for less than what you need. The relationship you have is not a marriage. A marriage is a union of two people in love with each other. There is no union going on here. Are you sure she isn't having an affair? She either hates sex or she is getting it somewhere else. The fights are a way to keep from having sex with you. Somethings going on. You might consider divorce, you deserve better. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who wants to be with you. Don't play the fool. The longer you wait to get divorced the more it will cost you. Good luck and there IS someone out there for you. Never settled for less than what you NEED to be happy.
2007-02-09 13:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by grdangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have any of you considered that depending on the age & health of the woman it may just plain hurt. It may have absolutely nothing to do with you. The fact that she gets extremely angry over the subject would suggest that she is aware of the issue and might feel like she's isn't attractive to you because of her inability to enjoy the act as she used to. You yourself state that she isn't attractive to you currently and you might be projecting that.
Or she could just be going through menopause. Either way if you dance around the issue you are going to end up in someone else's bed, divorced or celebate. Take her out to dinner and tell her you are going to ask her a difficult question and would appreciate it if she 1) didn't get angry with the asking 2) answered the question 3) offered a solution. Do not expect all of this to happen in the same night.
2007-02-09 13:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Laura E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have other questions...this could be so many reasons. How is your relationship in other areas? Lack of libido usually means that there is a problem in another area that is serious enough to affect intimacy. Do you love her? How strong is your committment to your wedding vows? Perhaps you need to just sit down and let her talk...not you, just her. You listen, you might, if you are sensitive enough, be able to discern what's happening behind the words and attitudes. If you are willing to work to restore the relationship, and believe me, a good relationship takes work, you may have to romance her all over again. Do you still romance her like before you were married? Think about what drew you to each other in the beginning? Try to rekindle that again.
2007-02-09 13:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Gumbi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question. You are the casue of her not wanting to have sex with you.
What have you done to let her know that she's beautiful,
Do you tell her even when she's not looking her best, How have you treated her?
She's mad at you because you stop making her happy.
Talk to your wife about her, don't complain about what she's not doing.
Get inside her head and fix those things that you do that piss her off and do more to be attentive to her needs not just your own.
2007-02-09 13:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a marriage counselor. The more pressure you put on her, the less she's going to want to do it. Have you two actually discussed this without arguing? You can't force her because if she gave in, would you really enjoy doing it with her if she was not enjoying it either? Really, see a therapist and find out why she's so resistant and defensive when you bring it up. Something is going on.
2007-02-09 13:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There can be many reasons for her loss of libido. If there is no physiological reason (i.e. menopause, or other disability), then you may try a counseling to mitigate your dilemma. AS your were taking of mood swings, it could be that proper medication maybe the answer.
2007-02-09 13:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out what her problem really is.
If the fact of the matter is that you are never going to have at least an OK sex life with her, you have some tough decisions to make.
2007-02-09 13:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this. Without communication you have no marriage, and quite frankly without sex you have no marriage!! Maybe a sex therapist would be in order here! Hope that helps.
2007-02-09 14:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by bsoundog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, sex is one of those things that you are allowed to expect in a marriage. Unless she warned you before you married her that she might stop wanting to have sex, then you should leave her if you're not happy.
2007-02-09 14:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋