As a Christian, marriage is more than dreams, ideals, romance, friendship, love, etc. It's about God. Drawing closer to Him and loving my husband through Him.
For people who aren't Christians, how does your marriage thrive?
I feel that if God wasn't the center of our marriage a lot of our problems would have been too difficult to get through. I would have been too focused on my self, my own desires, and my own needs, without realizing that life and marriage isn't about me (selfishly) it's about God.
So, for people who aren't Christians, I just don't see how they get through problems without getting too self-focused?
2007-02-09 05:07:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can anyone love anyone without loving through God? He is Love.
2007-02-09 05:15:36 · update #1
Well i am roman catholic and god is in our lives, but out feelings are god gave us free will and the ability to reason, so we use them and get through tought times. However when in marriage, your focus isnt on God or yourself. Its on eachother and the kids and the dogs, gods creatures, so while god isnt always thought about in the marriage, he is still there and we use his gifts everyday. If you're looking for a more aethiestic approach or devil worshiping answer, I dont know much about that.
2007-02-09 05:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages work for different people for different reasons. The qualities that make a good marriage isn't based on ones faith. It's based on one understand of one self and ones partner.
Those things are needed in all marriages not just faith based.
By the way Christians divorce as often as non Christians
2007-02-09 05:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretty well, actually. My husband is agnostic and I am not religious, but spiritual. God is NOT an everyday part of our lives. If you need God in your marriage to keep it together, so be it. But not everyone does. There is no way to really explain it, but God doesn't have to be part of our lives to have a good and sustaining marriage. God is not part of the equation for everyone.
There are plenty of atheists that marry for life and plenty of Christians that are in their 4th, 5th and 6th marriages.
2007-02-09 07:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 11 years to a wonderful woman who is both very in tune with life, and love, and she's agnostic as I am also.My mother, unlike hers, was extremely religious.Raised in a catholic household, you would think that would be better than a godless household......WRONG.She has been divorced once and has had a rocky relationship with my father including a lengthy seperation.So there it is.The understanding, the idea of being selfless in my marriage has nothing to do with God.
2007-02-09 05:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pimpstick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't revolve around religion. Atheists get married all the time. It is a legal document, you might as well live your life according to city hall. Why some people live their lives according to an age old novel written by men still amazed me.
2007-02-09 05:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How do you explain the tons of divorces of Christian couples? God obviously wasn't enough.
I've been married 17 years and God had nothing to do with it.
2007-02-09 05:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get too self-focused, because I'm focused on my HUSBAND. I love him, and his needs and OUR needs as a couple are important to me. I don't need to love him THROUGH anyone or anything else, I just love him. We just don't feel like we need a middleman.
2007-02-09 05:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shut up, and take this topic to religion, so we don't have to listen to you preach your crap. My husband and I have dealt with many problems and hard times, and not once have I felt the need for "god's" help. If you are a strong person, and love your partner, you don't need the crutch of "god" to get you by.
2007-02-09 06:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by brandi91082 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My heavenly father is the center of everything. When you focus on that relationship first, everything else falls into place. When I wasn't focused on my spirituality, I almost lost everything. I am so thankful that HE opened my heart and mind, and made me understand that there is NO MAN but him, and NO MAN before him. He is my one and only true love--for he loves me unconditionally. He made me what I am, and what I will to be. Once I realized that I was able to become a better wife, and mother to my children. He is the reason for everything, and he controls everything--and I am grateful that he has blessed me with that knowledge. With him, EVERYTHING is possible. I am living proof.
2007-02-09 05:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why don't you ask about a billion Chinese or the hundreds of millions of Budhists?
It must be hard going through life with blinders on.
2007-02-09 05:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋