Why do ALL married men base their happiness with their wife and their marriage on how their sex life is and yes sex is great and an important part of marriage BUT there is more to having a happy marriage then just sex.
2007-02-09 04:59:21 · 19 answers · asked by sally d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well maybe NOT all married men but LOTS are like this
2007-02-09 05:00:38 · update #1
So mj ur saying the only way a wife can show she loves her husband is thru sex.Well i dont agree. I have been happily married 16 yrs and i show my husband many other ways that i love him and yes sex is IMPORTANT never said it wasnt..
2007-02-09 05:13:01 · update #2
OK not ALL men are like this..im wrong but most of the married men on the internet seem like this.
2007-02-09 05:14:17 · update #3
If you base yopur marriage on s ex, then the rlationship is ultimatley doomed. S ex will cool off when the honeymoon is over, then that where the real marriage start.
Marriage is about teamwork, friendship and companionship. If you don;t have that then you will not endure time. If s ex was what brought youtogether and otherwise you have nothing else in common, then you are screwed.
Good luck
2007-02-09 05:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well clearly you are a jaded woman when it comes to this subject, but allow me elaborate. I beleive sex is 40% emotional 60%. If sex life is at 10% or 0% that means im not 100% happy. However, most men who use that as an excuse to say the relationship sucks are looking for a venue to express other issues. there is nothing, if that 60% is at 60% that can't be talked through. If sex is low, find out why, ask talk, discuss. Sometimes it jsut slows down. But if the man bases it on that, thats not a man you should be with.
2007-02-09 13:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Drew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not ALL about sex.
But when your sex life is bad it sure feels that way.
Here's my philosophy: when it's more trouble to get sex from your wife than it is to pick up someone in a bar, you have a problem.
Being denied sexual attention by your spouse is a serious blow to your self esteem. If it happens over and over, you begin to feel miserable. It's easy to blow off being denied by someone you don't really know.
There is more to a happy marriage then sex, yes. But for most men, a marriage without a decent sex life cannot be happy.
EDIT keep in mind whichever part of the marriage is worst always seems to be the most important. If there are money problems, it's all you think and fight about. Problems with the kids, same thing.
The thing about the sex life that is so frustrating for most men (and many women) is that it is the one area that there is the least excuse for it. Many other problems in life are beyond your control. If two people are dedicated to a good sex life, there is no reason they can't have it (except if a medical problem intervenes). If one person just simply doesn't care about it - it is akin to one person blowing all the money and not caring about the consequences, or one person ignoring the other to be with their friends all the time, or mistreating someone. It is horribly frustrating for people to watch their spouse allow this area of their marriage to deteriorate and expect him or her to just live without it.
OH AND ONE OTHER THING: most men need a good sex life. Calling them jerks for needing it doesn't fix anything. You can't talk or nag them out of it or change them in any way. Sending them to a therapist will not kill their sex drive. You can either give them their good sex life or let them find it elsewhere.
2007-02-09 13:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A happy life means a happy marriage and a happy sex. These goes hand in hand together to prolong the life that you are building. Life can be happy if you choose the right path and that's marriage to you loved one....your wife.
Men do have to find a partner that can fulfill his dreams...to have a happy family; with kids to love, support & nurture until they became a person to go on with men's life and also his life. This is just a thing that you can give to your self as a human being.
Living and loving your wife and bearing children they way you wanted it to be....that's the real purpose of married men.
On the other hand, sex is enjoyable if you are fulfilling it with your wife that you love most in this world. Really....a happy one.
2007-02-09 13:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all married men are this way but I do know some who are.My husband has a high sex drive and so do I so we are fine in the sex dept.and I know for a fact its not all he cares about.If I even have a look like I am upset about something or in a bad mood,he is right there wanting to hug me and love me and ask me whats wrong and is willing to fix it on the spot.So I know what you are saying alot of men are this way but so are alot of women too these are usually the ones who cheat......
2007-02-09 13:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that so many women (who are having relationship difficulties) make the same erroneous generalization about the importance of sex to men.
Not only men, but women as well, must learn that EVERYTHING in a relationship (including sex) must be kept in perspective and given the amount of attention (not more, not less) that is appropriate.
This is where COMMUNICATION comes in. Talk to your significant other, not the people on this forum, if you want results.
2007-02-09 13:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Class Act 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a good sex life transfers to the other aspects of marriage. Like great communication and deeper understanding I don't know any married people who will say that they have a good marriage and a bad sex life.
2007-02-09 13:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is more but when you are first married sex is a big part of the relationship. As time goes on life gets more complicated and other intrests enter the picture. There will be times when one partener wants more sex than the other. This will flip around at times Too.
2007-02-09 13:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. There is more to marriage than just sex! Because in order for wives to be happy they expect their husbands to compliment them daily, take out the trash without being asked, do the dishes and act as if you're enjoying it, leave them love notes, give them foot massages, cuddle without expecting sex, take them to the movies, take them to nice dinners, surprise them with flowers, take them on vacations, take them on dates, fold the laundry once in a while, change the oil in the car, step on spiders, tell them how attractive you still think they are, listen to how their day went, talk about their feelings, understand their needs, appreciate them as a person, agree with them when they bad mouth your mother, not get mad when their parents stay the weekend, not get mad when she vollunteers to watch her sisters kids, and all with a great big smile on your face! Meanwhile, according to you, men just want a good sex life with their wives in order to be happy and satisfied! So let's review: Women need a quadriillion things on a daily basis to be happy, while men just need some good sex from their wives a couple times a week. Yeah.........us hubby's have some serious issues don't we!
2007-02-09 13:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not according to most men and if you don't make sure he is satisfied, there's always someone else out there who will. Most men who cheat, cheat because they are not getting what they need sexually at home. Read Dr Laura"s book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Even she will tell you, if you don't take care of your man sexually, he will get it elsewhere. My mom once told me the best way to keep a husband is to be a great cook in the kitchen and an even better one in bed.
2007-02-09 13:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by grdangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋