Why do people use the smallest excuses for divorce?

Question

What is the point in getting married if you're willing to drop everything if someone doesn't do the dishes right or forgets to take out the trash?

Isn't divorce, unless it has to do with unfaithfulness, a little on the selfish side?

I mean, when you marry someone you are obviously in love with them. Why would you let that fade because of the little things?

Just wondering. Read a lot of questions and answers today about this and it's kind of sad how quickly people opt for divorce.

Whatever happened to love?

Answer 1

Everyones situation is different and personal. We only ever get pieces of whats going on in different peoples lives on here. I never thought I would be the type of person to get divorced.. I always believed marriage was forever. It was not a quick or easy thing to do. I don't think it is any easy decision for anyone... and really there is no way to make sure that it doesn't happen to you. So try not to judge.

Answer 2

A gun is an intricate weapon...made from finely crafted parts. So is a fighter jet...or a submarine or a revolver...as I gather from my interest in reading about James Bond!

Pulling the trigger of any of these machines is the smallest of actions in the intricate whole.

The smallest excuse in divorce is the "trigger" in the intricasy of marriage.

Marriage, whether fly-by- night or Arabian stuff has one point that will never change. That it is a relationship between two people who share something so deep that only they two, and their maker, alone know each other intimately. Now when they know each other intimately, who else can step in between to take sides and analyse and judge when things go wrong. Remember the song " Its the human side, when thing go wrong"....?

Did you expect a response like a do it yourself guide?

You are apparently shattered. Pick yourself up and keep loving her. They say the best love is the kind that is never returned. Come to terms with yourself and forgive yourself and her.

Create a fertile atmosphere to ask each other questions....take it from there my friend....

Answer 3

Marriage is no longer a lifelong commitment anymore. Celebrities have made it socially acceptable to get married, have kids, and then get divorced. I answered a question just yesterday posted by a woman who said that her husband smoked since he was 12, smoked while they dated in high school, and still smokes after 8 years of marriage. NOW she is threatening to divorce him if he doesn't quit! I couldn't believe how ridiculous people are! What's more incredible to me is reading all the questions from unwed mothers in 3 year relationships with cheating boyfriends, wondering if they should stay with them! I think that a majority of the questions posted are a result of what happens when we as a society drift too far away from traditional values. Somewhere along the line people decided that meeting, dating, falling in love, getting engaged, getting married, and starting a family should be replaced by meeting, having sex, getting pregnant, and then putting off marriage as long as they can because they're not sure if they want the commitment! I'm only 32 years old and already I weep for the future of this country. With role models like Brittany Spears, Paris Hilton, and the countless NFL players who ended up in jail this year, who can blame me?

Answer 4

It seems that many people put far more effort into all other aspects of their lives---except for their marriages. We live in a disposable society and unfortunately, that has carried over into relationships as well. Some people have the attitude that if their mate doesn't do everything that pleases him/her they will dump them and find someone else. Not only is that very selfish and shallow, but in the end, the person will most likely end up alone and filled with regret. Poetic justice, perhaps, but still little consolation to the spouse and family they devastated.

Answer 5

You are SO right! Everyone expects the feelings they have when they first fall in love to stay constant through the whole marriage. That NEVER happens. Feelings ebb and flow. It's alot easier to divorce than to work on a relationship. I guess alot of people don't want to take a good hard look at themselves and figure out what they're doing wrong and take ownership of it. It's easier to blame your spouse and then take a walk. Marriage is not for the weak or immature, it takes commitment, acceptance, and patience to make it work for more than a few years.

Answer 6

If you really really loved someone wouldn't you do the dishes correctly and on time, or take out the trash if that is your chore?

If you really really loved someone, would you overlook dishes and trash?


See the problem? Its a tug of war... somethings got to give and when it does then there is divorce.

Answer 7

Because people now days get married to soon without knowing the person well and have the idea already in mind that if it doesn't wok then oh well "Ill just get a divorce"...The "good ol days" are over!

Answer 8

I think you hit it on the head, people are selfish and aren't willing to give and take in a relationship. If things don't go their way 100%, 100% of the time they throw in the towel.

Answer 9

they have to use some excuse to leave their spouse, so they can justify leaving. as they really don't want to blame anything on themselves. divorce unless caused by some kind of betrayal is all wrong. people see in others the faults they themselves don't like in themselves, faults they haven't been able to stop in their own lives. it always looks so bad in the other person but is acceptable if it's us doing the same thing.

Answer 10

Exactly who gets divorced over taking out the trash? I think you are exaggerating.