he also like's to wear my nylon's in private under his clothes occassionally. he has worn my high heels and make up to. he says it makes him feel closer to me and turns him on.
2007-02-09 04:44:40 · 16 answers · asked by lisarockshard123321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The way I see it, your husband has told you something that must have been very hard for him to disclose. His honestly was open to an unexpected reaction from you, but now you know about it.
The pleasure he derives from feminine clothes is no reflection on whether you please him sexually or not, but is instead just a big part of who he is. His feelings for you are not in question here, nor his manhood. But, there must be a compromise between the two of you. He must be made to understand your feelings on the matter, and realize that it must be kept a private lifestyle and NOT taken out of the home. If you are going to respect his actions in this matter, then he must also respect yours. This is about both of you, not just him. His interest in dressing up might or might not be excessive, but he must be made to understand that it can only go sooo far, after that, he will lose your support.
This is all very strange to you I know, but it is a fairly common occurrence. The majority of men out there have one fetish or another, something they keep secret. I myself have a fetish for a women's feet if they have a nice summer look with painted nails. I found that my wife joined in with my fetish, and we then had an even better relationship.
Well I hope you learn to float along with him on this, best of life to the both of you.
2007-02-10 07:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE IS A CROSS DRESSER!!! Your husband has a fetish. Keep in mind that fetishes are NOT a choice! Some are more "out there" than others but keep in mind people have no choice in what gets them aroused. There is, however, psychological reasonings for many of them, but they don't fit every fetishist. Chances are that he may not understand it 100%. But it is no slight against you and part of him is probably insecure about it. Talk to him but don't slander him in any way. This page should help you... http://www.answers.com/topic/pantyhose-fetishism
2007-02-09 13:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I've heard that there are men like that. But are you positive it turns him on to YOU??? And, does it make him feel closer to you like what? A friend... a sister... or a lover? I'd ask some really deep questions about that.
2007-02-09 12:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Alisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there isnt anything wrong with you being the one who wears the pants in the family!!I bet he is very submissive as well,how dominant are you?you can have alot of fun with him if you think about it,Wouldnt it be an even trade ,,he get to dress up,and you teach him to do hair and make up so he can do it all without having to ask you to help,,you get to relax and train him to do all the house work ,train him to be your maid!!
2007-02-10 01:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by cindyxdresser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up ypou have a cross dresser,
this has nothing to do with you it all about him
but if you love him discuss this and have him come clean with it
a man liking to wear woman close doesn't mean that he is gay
so acept your man for what he is
Just love him
Good luck
2007-02-09 12:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely read up on cross-dressing. It does NOT mean he is gay. There are just some men who enjoy this. If you love him, you will get used to it. I'm sure there are support groups.
2007-02-09 12:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you......but I'm turned off just hearing about it. I like my men manly. It would seem that you've married yourself a transvestite. Not my cup of tea - I don't like to share wardrobes!
2007-02-09 12:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's creepy. Sounds like a narcissistic schizoid with homosexual tendencies.
2007-02-09 12:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Paul BS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your husband he needs some help and get rid of him ... unless you want a crossdresser as a husband. he sounds very confused!
2007-02-09 12:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Flipper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well he only does in private so nothing to be worried about
2007-02-12 01:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋