my big brother is really popoular around where i live, and all the egyptian girls i know love him like crazy. they are always nice to me in an odd sort of way. i can feel that they are not liking me for myself, they aren't even giving me a chance, they like me for my brother and for my brother ONLY. i love my brother, but they should try to get to know me for myself. this is really frustrating becuase some of them go to school with me and they r really sweet at heart, i guess they dont mean to, but it still bothers me. i get to meet new people because of my brother, but they rarely ever even attempt to know me, they just assume that im exactly like my brother...
2007-02-09 04:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Daraweesh rocks!=) aka Shankooty 3 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
Why would you assume that they like you because of your brother ? Maybe they like you for yourself . I know you are a likeable person. I am sure not every one of them likes you because of your brother.
And even if this wrong for some of the girls who just know you in order to get to know your brother. It's natural for them to assume that your personality is the same as your brother's . This is simply because you are brother and sister.
I haven't been popular all my life, but I know how people think of popular ones. We " the uncool ones " think that it is fun to hang around them because of all the things that they do and see. However when we want to "open up" with somebody , we never go to a popular person and do that. We usually go to our old friends whom we are used to.
Now I know that you are not like that. I know that you are more of "sharing and opening up " person. So if you want people to treat you in the way you are , you have to show them that. You have to let them know that you can be both popular and intimate. And this takes time and effort from your side.
2007-02-09 20:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem while growing up. I used to even resent such girls who pretended to be my friends, but in fact, they only liked me for my brother. However, my whole perspective changed as I grew older. I asked myself why my bro's so popular, why do people like to hang out more w/ him. That's when it hit me, I was very shy, I was afraid of opening up to people. My brother and I used to have so many friends in common and I guess that was security blanket, because he's the one who attracted those friends and I had to just sit and wait for people to talk to me. But that's where I was wrong. I had to break out of my shell. I had to work on myself first. I started forming my own friends, and that rebuilt my own self-esteem. I knew that people liked me for who I'm and it had nothing to do w/ my brother. I just had to show these people who I really was.So you have to start w/ urself to show these people the real u, u have to be outgoing, u have to step up and be open. Ur personality would charm them, would attract them to know who u really are. Use the positive side of this to ur own advantage. Break out of the shell that u built for urself. And if these girls are really shallow, then it's their loss, not urs. They are the ones who would miss on getting to have a great friend!
2007-02-11 01:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by fldrod 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is good for you which will help you all your life and in your work you will know a lot of difference people who love for true and who love someone to say to people someone loves me only some people love for there self only or till they take something from someone and may your brother is a good man which make people love him or4 good in doing something on the PC which people want to know him to take what they only but whatever happen and even 1000000000000 one love your brother never ever let him may he fall in problems and can't find anyone to help him expat you you are his true friend
2007-02-10 05:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by dodo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is normal. I had three brothers and had lots of g/friends because they wanted to know them. I married one of their friends so it can work out both ways.
2007-02-09 13:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by chersgaz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid to say that these people are judging you before they get to know you. Try coming closer to them (In Friendship) and then show them the real you. It has worked for me before in the past..
I hope i helped..
God bless you Mariam..x
2007-02-09 17:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO PROBLEM!!everything works for good!!enjoy your life & forget about this!!
2007-02-09 18:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by donia f 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not a big deal.
u can solve it. right????? don't worry.
2007-02-10 14:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by beauty mirna 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do nothing..just watch and observe.
2007-02-10 08:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kalooka 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋