He asked me on january to be his girlfriend and now he confessed to me that he has been praying to God for a long time to find a woman with all the qualities he is looking for to become his wife and that his prayers had been answered and that he dreams, would like to marry me.
He says he hasnt felt this way for a long, long time.
He also wants to wait to have se x until marriage
Do you think this is for real?
How can a man be proposing marriage just by knowing a woman for 4 months?
By the way Im 27
2007-02-09 04:09:25 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I did told him that I would like to wait and see what happens in our relationship that I dont want to take things 2 fast and end up making a mistake
2007-02-09 04:18:02 · update #1
Trust your instincts. If you feel that it's too soon then tell him you'd like to get to know each other a little better before making that type of commitment. Be sure to tell him what you feel about him and you don't want to break up, you just want to be sure that this is the one for you too.
I, personally, knew that my boyfriend was the one in as little as four months so I do think that it's possible. If it's right then you'll know it. Just talk to him and go with what your heart tells you.
Good Luck!
2007-02-09 04:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by mikey's girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, while I knew my husband casually for a little over a year before we started dating, we only dated for about a month before we got engaged. I knew then and I know now it was the best decision I ever made in my life. So to answer your question, yes, I do think this is for real--or at least it can be.
We also waited until we were married to have sex. And we didn't need to test drive the car before buying it, we were 2 reasonably intelligent adults, and you can pretty much tell if someone turns you on or not. And if you love each other the way you should, you won't need to "try it out" before comitting, it will be great between you 2 not because it's great in some Cosmo magazine, but because you truly and deeply love each other. I've been happily married for over 19 years now, and each year the sex has gotten better and better. So I honestly don't buy the excuse that people have to "try each other out" before marriage. If they want to have premarital sex, that's fine by me, it's not my place to judge, I just don't think it's required to do it to have a good sexual relationship inside the marriage.
But, if you're not certain of your feelings at this point, then by all means, take it easy with this relationship. If he loves you as he says he does, he will be willing to be patient and wait until you're as certain as he is.
Best of luck to you.
2007-02-09 12:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible tells us that he that finds a wife finds a good thing. If he has been praying and he feels like you are the answer of those prayers I say go for it. That doesn't mean you run out and get married tomorrow but he sure sounds like he's worth investing the time to get to know him. It also sounds like you are interested in him. Mutual interest is always good.
How can he propose after 4 months. Sounds like he knows what he wants and has a good feel that you are the one. Give yourself a little credit for that one.
I'll say the guy is stupid or a keeper. If he through out the no sex til marriage clause, he is really into you, has strong morals or he's playing you. I doubt that he's playing you.
Congratulations.
2007-02-09 16:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Last Good Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband proposed to me after knowing me for 4 months and I wish it would have been sooner! We got married after only knowing each other 7 months and our marriage is beautiful. I'm not saying we don't argue and have flaws, we do, as everyone else does. But it's still the best thing that has ever happened to me.
He's not crazy and when you know someone's the right match for you, there's nothing holding you back from going with it.
If you are unsure, however, you need to wait until you know it's right. I wouldn't jump into marriage just because it seems like he's a great guy. You need to be compatibable and have the same ideals. And you need to know that he is the one for you and worth fighting for.
So as for him, he's not crazy. Just works a little different and more quickly than you. But if you are unsure, just wait it out. He'll understand.
2007-02-09 12:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by crimsnclover 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! 4 months is not even half long enough. It really does take AT LEAST 2 years to truly truly know someone. He might be feeling guilty because he wants to have sex but also wants to wait until marriage so he's rushing things too fast. If he truly loves you then he will have no problem waiting- usually waiting is the best thing you can do so you can properly evaluate someone and your relationship with them. You need to know how they will react to difficult situations- do you know (from personal experience) how he reacts?
2007-02-09 12:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably grew up a lot in his first marriage and realized a lot of things that he wants and doesnt want in this life.
Now that he found you, and you have all the characteristics and everything that he wants, he doesn't want to let you go!
I think his divorce made him realize a lot of things in his life he was unhappy with, and what he wanted in the future, what he wanted in a partner, and where his wants his life to go.
I would definitely wait it out a bit, atleast a year maybe longer. But good luck! I hope you two end up married some day!
2007-02-09 14:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people "fall in love" pretty easily. He is not in love with you he is in love with the thought of you. He has an idea about the kind of wife you would be but he doesn't know for sure. He is basing these statements on emotions he feels in the moment. This isn't real love. As I am sure you know emotions can change in a moment's notice. Will he still view things the same way?
2007-02-09 12:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only answer to your question is that he is psycho. He sounds desperate. You need to really get grip and see what you're getting into. Ask him how he got married to his first wife and how he got divorced.
Remember, he will be biased when he tells you the story. Just try to focus on facts, and not statements like "She went crazy." She might have been completely sane, and he may be the one that went crazy.
I will bet you that he told his first wife the same thing he told you before he married her. Now think about that.
2007-02-09 12:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pray and ask God if this is the man you should be with. If he says that God brought you to him, but God didn't confirm that to you then there's a problem. You need to talk with him about his past marriage, finding out why he was divorced, b/c you don't want him bringing anything into your marriage(if it comes to that). Conintue to seek God on this matter. It's so easy to get caught up in the emptions, and feelings...But ask yourself if you could see yourself growing and maturing in your relationship with Christ?
2007-02-09 12:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he told you, you are everything he wants. Personally I think marriage these days is overrated, so if I were you, I would let him know you aren't into it quite yet... I mean, you two are at the best age to start a family, but why don't you convince him to play it like Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn.... They have been together for YEARS, and have kids, but they aren't married. Will be a lot easier in the end if you two so decide to split sheets.
2007-02-09 12:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by hammettgoddess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋