Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughtd out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to thje time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I Am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit
2007-02-09 03:46:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My suggestion is to stop worrying. Go with the flow and just enjoy each other. If he's not the one for you down the road, then so be it. If we stressed out about every little detail of our future, we will never find happiness. While it's good to keep your eyes open for red flags, it's not good to obsess about everything. Part of dating and finding happiness is taking emotional risks.
2007-02-09 03:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love isn't a tangible thing, so it's very easy to start wondering if what you have/are feeling is real, ESPECIALLY if a relationship seems too good to be true. it's totally normal to have the questions you're asking yourself pop into your head. what would be crazy would be to throw away what sounds like a really good man because of understandable but still irrational feelings. obviously staying in a relationship that's just not right is a bad idea, but it seems that the issue is more in your own head than between you and your bf. unless you have a reason to really think that you don't love him anymore, don't let these thoughts ruin the two of you. good luck girl!
2007-02-09 11:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really in love and this is the one, then I don't think those doubts would even be floating around in your mind. I think you already know the answer to your question and I'm so glad that you have seen your GP and talked with your bf about it. Good Luck!
2007-02-09 11:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have stated your age, and if this your first serious relationship and if your boyfriend is a man or a boy.
your relationship is only 5 months old so give it time and maybe not see each other so much. to much to soon is bad for a relationship and it can burn out.
2007-02-09 11:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not sure that you don't love him neither love him. since there's no third party involve, just enjoy your time with your boyfriend. if your mind is saying 95% true, that you don't love him really, then there's still 5% chance that you'll fall in love with him. that you'll learn to love him inspite everything.
i think he is a nice guy. goodluck and happy hearts day!
2007-02-09 12:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a fear of abandoment, you fear he is going to leave you so you are prepping yourself to believe you are not in love with him so it will be easier if you do split. The medicine will help, keeping in communication with him will help to. Knowing you have a support system makes a huge difference.
2007-02-09 11:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Brownie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying he has swept you off your feet and you wounder if your feelings are real ?
Or are you saying He is to good to be true ,and you are waiting for the other shoe to fall . (I think this is your problem )
Some things are not to good to be true ,take the chance ,you probably do love him, just take your time .
2007-02-09 11:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crazy. You're spending all of your precious energy on....what? What-ifs? Be glad you have someone to share your life with, and let the chips fall where they may. You don't have to decide TODAY how you feel about him. Let it ride.
2007-02-09 11:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're doubting your relationship, maybe you're not in love...try taking a break and dating other people to see how you feel about them
if you dont have feelings anywhere near what you have for your current boyfriend then you do love him..
2007-02-09 11:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by aerochik9675 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah it probably is anxiety, but if you FEEL somethin is wrong, dont keep prolonging it, my friend is going thru the same, and i dont think its fair to her bf that she doesnt love him like he does so yeah. its up to u
2007-02-09 11:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lili 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋