Recently spilt with my 17 month old's mother. What is the best way to split up the holidays, birthdays, etc?
2007-02-09 03:44:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, "you" should decide what access time you want, think it out clearly and write it down, very important. depending on how reasonable your ex is with allowing access. if she is not being reasonable, try to make an appointment with a mediator so you and your ex can come to an agreement without taking it to court. the legal side of it could drag out for years. use the court as your last option. try to sort this out like adults and try to keep an amicable relationship with your ex for the sake of your child. lastly, its very important to support your child financially. pay maintenance to your ex, it will work out better for you in the long run. once you come to some agreement with regards holiday time, all this will settle down. trust me, I've been through it. hope I've helped. good luck
2007-02-09 04:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to the parents. My ex and I do christmas, birthdays, and stuff like that together. For christmas, we alternate houses, but open presents together.
You have to do what works best in your situation though. My ex and I have worked very hard to ensure that the children know that even though Mom and Dad do not live together anymore, we are still their parents, and will work together to raise them.
But, if you and the ex can't act amicable together for the sake of the child(ren), then do the holidays separately. The child would rather have two christmas' without argueing and incidents, than one together and you two are fighting and bickering the whole time.
You need to put all differences aside for the child, or each do your own thing on the holidays.
2007-02-09 12:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im separated and about to be divorced. We do not split holidays or birthdays, we celebrate them together. Its best for the children.
2007-02-09 12:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by RR77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthdays should have Mom and Dad---Thanksgiving & Christmas are hard, but the one with full custody can have it put in the child support order.Make sure you make your wishes know.Children as they get older will make their own choices.It is hard when they have to choose.Sorry your family split up.....
2007-02-09 12:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has a child and he and his ex-wife take turns spending holidays with the kid. For example, we get him for Thanksgiving, they get him for Christmas. For his birthday, we get him half the day, and she gets him the other half. He spends his dad's birthday with us and his mom's birthday with her.
2007-02-09 12:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't a best way. learn to put your differences behind you for your child.
2007-02-09 11:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ally cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a lawyer if your divorced
2007-02-12 20:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋