Ok I have this friend who is handicapped and we have been friends for about two years. She gets mad at me every single day for no reason, so I told her about it and she said she will stop!!! Well she did it again for like the millionth time and she went to go apoligize and I told her our friendship was over and that I am getting tired of doing this every flippin day well do yall think I am right or what?????
2007-02-09 03:44:06 · 6 answers · asked by me,,, the girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think you gave your friend very much of a chance since your talk. No one knows what she feels every day, life is hard enough on people who don't have to deal with any disabilities, do you honestly understand what daily life is like for her. Depending on her disability/handicap, daily life can be a struggle or at least an uphill battle. Cut her a little slack and work with her on it. Talk to you like you did the first time and eventually she will be able to change if she wants to. If not, then reassess the friendship. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-09 11:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. I wouldn't stick around and take that kind of abuse either. She obviously has issues. Who among us doesn't? But you don't take your frustrations out on someone who is guilty of nothing more than trying to be a good friend to you.
I don't know what her handicap is but it could just be that when she sees you she resents the fact that you are not handicapped and she is. That's not your fault nor it is hers. It's just the unfortunate curve that she's been thrown. She evidently doesn't have the serenity to accept the things she cannot change (her handicap), to change the things that she can (her outlook and attitude) and the wisdom to know the difference.
You've spoken to her about it and she promises to change but doesn't. Move on. Life is short enough. You don't need unnecessary aggravation to shorten it further.
2007-02-09 12:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
handicap how? my husband is paralyzed and that have a huge affect on someone's personality and how they see things. I can't even begin to imagine how he feels sometimes. But when he had his accident they gave him counseling about how he was going to feel sometimes and everything. A lot of people who are paralyzed blame others in a way b/c they aren't going through it as well. I got lucky and my husband knows I had nothing to do with it and he takes it very well. Some people just don't though... they have esteem issues and so much more. I agree you shouldn't put up with it... but i would try talking to her again.
2007-02-09 11:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by akp_02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that this annoys you, but put yourself in her shoes. I've been working with special needs children for 6 years now and loving every moment of it. Most of them do this to me. But I understand where they are coming from. I can't begin to imagine what they are going through. Society isn't too kind to people with disablities and handicapps. She is prolly getting teased and picked on by people and you just happen to be the person she takes it out on. Talk to her again. Tell her that she needs to stop taking her anger out on you. If all else fails have her talk to a counseler and figure out what's going on. Just try and be there for her.
2007-02-09 12:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stay friends with someone who doesn't treat you well no matter their physical or mental well-being. If she realizes that her behavior is wrong and she isn't doing anything about it then you should move on. She doesn't need to take her anger out on you.
2007-02-09 12:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by ciao_gina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋