my boyfriend left me saying i'm mean and hateful. i'm not. he was mentally abusive. i couldn't take it. we were togather a year. i got with him 2 months after a horrible nasty marriage. where i was brain washed and manipulated. my ex boyfriend is a terrible person. so why does it hurt so bad? why do i feel so unloved and lonley? what do i do?
2007-02-09 03:27:16 · 7 answers · asked by higa1980ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's how he wants you to feel. don't let him win.
2007-02-09 03:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because you are seeking validation from men. I've been there. I looked to every guy I ever dated to make me feel loved and beautiful. In turn, I ended up with ANYONE that would show me the least little bit of love. Which you can imagine turned into a disaster.
I was mentally and emotionally abused a lot. Never felt beautiful, and never felt loved. I was cheated on and lied to.
It wasn't until I learned to stop looking to men for fulfillment, validation and love that I learned to appreciate and respect myself. I saw myself as beautiful, and learned to love myself.
When this self-respect happened I met my now-husband. Who is everything I could have ever asked for. I don't seek validation from him, but he makes me feel loved and beautiful without me being desperate.
Respect and love yourself enough to wait for the right person. Someone who will treat you better.
2007-02-09 11:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by crimsnclover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't like the truth.
Two men the exact same thing. There is a reason for that. In both cases it was you standing in your shoes.
Stop the I was brain washed crap and start cleaning up your own mess.
All you need to do is stay away from men for two years and pay your own bills. But then let me guess, the boss was being mean to you.
2007-02-09 11:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU FEEL UNLOVED BECAUSE HE PUT YOU THERE. HE MADE SURE THAT WHEN HE WAS TO LEAVE YOU WOULD BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT SO WHEN HES GONE HE DOESNT HAVE TO DO IT ANYMORE YOU WILL. THE ONLY WAY TO GET OVER IT IS TO GET A PIECE OF PAPER WRITE DOWN 5 GREAT THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF AND IF YOU DO TALK TO HIM SIMPLY SAY THIS IS WHY IM SPECIAL AND THIS IS WHY IM GOING TO BE A OK WITHOUT A CREEP LIKE YOU !!!! THAT WILL BLOW HIS MIND , HE WILL WONDER WHO THE HELL GOT INTO YOU AND HE WILL SEE YOU AS INDEPENDANT INSTEAD OF DEPENDENT. HE WILL FEEL AS THOUGH HE LOST CONTROL AND THATS WHEN YOU WILL FEEL FREE . TRUST ME . HOPE THAT HELPS
2007-02-09 11:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by sally m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The above answer is right...that is how he wants you to feel. You need to be socially active right now. You will find a guy that treats you with repsect soon.
2007-02-09 11:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has alot to do with your own self worth, u miss him because u loved him unconditionally, but if u had any self worth u would see that the way he treated u was wrong. if u feel unloved and lonely it is because of the way u view your maker, god.
2007-02-09 11:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you found out and wasn't married to him
2007-02-12 20:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋