what would you say or do with a friend like this?

Question

ok long story i will try to make it short, so i have a friend that always has a differnt guy, here is what i mean , we work together and the guy she use to date works here too, she broke up with him last friday (a week ago) that same night she went out dancing met a guy and let him stay the night with her (supposidly didnt sleep with him) then on tuesday she was telling me about a guy she knew in high school that had been staying with her (again she says they didnt have sex) and now today she emails me because she met a guy Wednesday that i apparently know, so she wanted to know about him, but he has been staying the night with her since Wednesday night, ok three differnt guys in a week but supposidly has slept with any of them, i am finding it hard to believe her, do i just let her keep doing this or do i say something, it really grosses me out, does she that desperatly need a man in her life? what would you do?

i should probably add, that i met her here at work and i have only been friends with her for a short time, so i dont know her too well

Answer 1

i would talk to her if it bothers me that much.
and i wouldn't tell her about that other guy that she says u know.
i think ur right to hav suspictions about wether shes sleeping with these guys. to be honest i wouldnt care who she is spending the nite with. i would just tell her that i dont think she should be doing it with guys she just met.

Answer 2

Honestly I would say if your going to tell her I would try to do it in the nices way, thats if you value your friendship. You can tell her that your concerned about her spending all these nights with these guys and if she wants to talk to you, that you are there for it. You dont want to come off like your calling her a slut or anything. So try to keep it clean and open. Im going to tell you now that this will be a touchy subject but if you have concern and you are close friends then you should be able to voice how you feel. Just make sure you dont tell her the whole part about it being gross. She might just need male attention or had something in her past that might make her reach out for male affection so put your hand out there for her. Just make sure you dont pass judgement when your unsure of the whole thing. I hope I was helpful.

Answer 3

Have a talk with her about safe sex. That's the thing you really need to be concerned about. Then the second question is: DOES she really desperately need a man in her life? Or is revolving men just something that she finds entertaining. If she has a strong self esteem, she's enjoying herself, and using protection when she *does* have sex then don't judge her. If she really is desperate and feels like she has to have a man around then try to encourage her to expand her personal life - to get some neat hobbies, get really skilled at something, focus on her career or do some volunteer work. Maybe go do some of these things with her. So that she can get wrapped up in her own life and not worry about having a man around.

Answer 4

I would sit her down and let her know that it's not very healthy to do that. Even if she doesn't have sex (which I think she's bluffing as well) she runs the risk of giving off the wrong impression. I think she's getting a false sense of being wanted. It appears that these men want her but they leave...so she has to fill the void with yet another guy. I did that for a few months a while back. The void gets bigger and I felt even worse about myself.

Answer 5

Ask her to be total honest. Ask her if she is really didnt sleep or what because it's unbelievable. But once a while you get girls like that. I had a female friend, she was very flirticious and very beautiful, and the only interest she had was boys. I spent a alot of nights with her. She used to sit embrassing me, or on my lap! Well she was colser with me then other boys , but she used to date other guys just as often. But amazingly we never had sex. And to be honest, though she is so sexy, i never felt like making a move when we were alon, may be it's for her attitude. She was deep and used to talk about things that normal people offten miss to notice. She was great, and we never had sex, Never even felt her up. Embrassed her a lot of time.
If your this friend is like her, i would say be a friend to her. They are very interesting and they never tire-up.

Answer 6

I think you should be a good friend and tell her straight up that even if she is not "sleeping" with any of these guys, her allowing them all to stay over is giving that impression. Tell her that you not only think it is gross, but as her friend, you are concerned about the reputation she will get. Girls who do this DO get a reputation for being loose, and they will start to magically be the most popular girl around with all the guys. I would just tell her how you feel. You sound like a good friend, and as her friend, you should be straight with her, even if she doesn't like it.

Answer 7

I think you should sit her down and let her know that you are worried about her. Maybe she hasn't realize that she has been doing all this or maybe she really liked that guy from work but she was just afraid to admit it to herself help her out in the long run she will thank you

Answer 8

She's probably not a close friend, but listen to your feelings about this, they are telling you that you don't want to be mixed up with somebody like this.
She is bad news.
You could talk to her, but since you are not really close, and have only been friends a short time, it probably wouldn't have any effect. Make other friends and consider her an acquaintence.

Answer 9

since she's your friend, you better do something. save your friend. have one on one conversation with her. i'm sure it's gonna be a lil awkward but you have to help her. she needs guidance.

tell her what you need to tell her BUT in a nice way. don't bring her down she might not like it. try hard to make her unerstand that what she's doing ain't right. or make a deal with her that you'll find her a decent guy. *hmm.. not a bad idea i should say*

Answer 10

Different strokes for different folks. If you don't approve of her lifestyle, you may tell her you'd rather not hear about her escapades. But you don't have the right to be judgemental on the way she conducts herself in her sex life unless she is endangering herself.