Can a engaged woman out go with a male friend and not?

Question

be considered a 'date'? Go out to lunch, or something. I'm not sure. I'm leaning towards "no". I need opinions. Thanks

Answer 1

Yes, she can go out with a male friend provides the intention is friendship only and her fiance is well aware of the meeting/friendship. If you have any sort of other feelings for this man, then don't go. The meeting can be seen as flirtatious rather then friendly.

I'm not sure if your fiance will be thrilled, but it is ok etiquette wise.

Answer 2

I think it depends: If you knew this guy before you fiance then I feel that you should be able to go out and just kick it with your friend. Now if this is a new friend, then there might be some problems. I had a new friend and was in a relationship. It worked out for a little while till he got really comfortable with me and wanted to be more even when i told him we were only friends. Sometimes when a guy becomes friends and gets comfortable, he wants more of what enjoyment and relationship. So I would say beware depending on the friendship. But i you knew this friend first and your a just good friends then whats the harm. You have been friends for this long so why stop. Also if you feel as though you have to hide this friendship from your fiance then yeah there is some problems there. Hope this was helpful.

Answer 3

YES, it's okay for an engaged woman to go out with a guy friend. Lunch is definitely okay, one-on-one for dinner is less okay.

Of course, don't keep any secrets about this from your fiancee, because that makes it look not innocent, even though it is. Just because you're engaged doesn't mean you need to stop being friends with people, male or female. They were your friends before you became engaged, and they'll still be your friends even when you're married. You're friends with them because you like hanging out with them and that doesn't have to change.

If your fiancee doesn't understand that you have strictly platonic guy friends, it might be because he didn't have female friends that were just friends. A lot of the guys I've talked to have never had female friends that were just friends because they've always wanted more from the girl but she was clueless about it. So while the girl went on thinking they were only friends, he was infatuated, hoping it would turn into something more. Even if that's true, most guys understand if you're unavailable and will be satisfied just being your friend. And the whole time you're out with them, they'll be thinking "that lucky b-stard," (unless your guy friend is gay, that is).

Answer 4

First thing you should be asking you is: How would your fiance feel about it? If he is uncomfortable with the idea, then you have your answer. You shouldn't do it. If he is okay with the idea, then the second question you need to ask is: Do you want to go out with male friends for the purpose of friendship, or do you have a need to feel attractive to other males? If the answer to your question is friendship, AND your fiance is okay with it, then I think it would be okay, as long as you pay attention to cues from your male friends that could indicate that they might want something more than friendship. If you have a deep down need to feel attractive to other males and that is influencing your desire to go out with male friends, then I think you shouldn't do it, even if your fiance doesn't mind. You would be playing with fire.

I think a good rule of thumb is that if it doesn't "feel" right, then don't. Good luck, and congratulations on your engagement!

Answer 5

Yes, she can. You see, if she doesn't consider it a date, he doesn't consider it a date, and they both behave accordingly it ISN'T A DATE. I don't feel I need to seclude myself from all males because I'm engaged, and I don't. I have male friends I've known since my teens, and I wouldn't insult them our or friendship by simply tossing it aside due to suspicions other people may have.

The key here, though, is that the woman and the male friend are honorable people. It's insulting to think someone else will just throw her promise away; insulting to both her integrity and intelligence. If THEY think it's a date, well...it's a date.

It isn't something you can assume, though.

Answer 6

Yes, but you are treading on very thin ice. I go to lunch all the time with one of the girls in my office. She is married. My GF is ok with it, but she knows we are only friends and on top of that, we occasionally all go out and do things.

If your significant other is ok with it, I don't think it will be a problem. If you feel like you have to hide it from your fiance, it's probably not a good idea...

Answer 7

No I don't think it's right. If he is a mutual friend of you and your fiance, then u could both go for lunch, but I don't think people should be hanging out with the opposite sex when they are in a relationship. How would u feel if he started going for lunch or out for the day with a woman friend?........that is the real question u have to ask yourself.

Answer 8

Absolutely. If your fiance' is secure in his own masculinity, then go ahead. Some guys feel threatened by other guys going out to lunch, etc. with their g/f, fiancee, etc.

I'd keep an eye out for your lunch "date" too. Some guys construe the fact that you went to lunch means that you want to sleep with them.

Answer 9

Why not? If this person is your friend, does he cease to be one because you are engaged? As long as your fiance knows about it and trusts you, what is the harm?

Answer 10

Just do it sweetheart. You wont be able to do this once you get married, will you? Be carefree and collected. cool and hip.
As Mark Twin said, 20 years form now, we will regrate more thinking what we didn't do than what we did do.