wife told me to find a younger woman?

Question

I am 46 and she is 53 my wife told me to find a younger woman
because i want sex to often
i love my wife and adore her
i think she has a beautiful body and just cannot get enough of her
she thinks she is to old to enjoy being loved on and tells me i am letures
i have told her that she is a wonderful lover and that age is just a number
just wondering what i can do

Answer 1

sounds like you are doing the right things and saying the right things, make sure she knows how you feel. Women sometimes think that because a guy wants sex so much its SEX, when most men are simple creatures, sex gives them closeness, the closeness they need to the person they love, while women are emotional and have other subtle ways to show love and sex is looked at differently. She just needs lots of communication, age is important to her, as we age, we are less uninhibited and more aware of our bodies, and gravity etc. Reassure her, make her feel beautiful, and she will come around.

Answer 2

Don't find someone else... In my opinion... there's a real reason that she wants you to theoretically find a younger woman. I did this to my husband under the same circumstances in the first half of our almost 19 years of marriage. It wasn't the idea that I wanted him to have someone else, not at all! It was the idea that I watched him as he responded so differently towards other women than me, even though he said exactly what you're saying... so I just told him, "Go get it somewhere else." As though his words said, "Honey, I love only you and I think your body is beautiful", his actions spoke far louder than words.
So when he came home, I didn't feel the want to be with him sexually, as I was very much at the time feeling as though everyone else got the best of him and I got what was left over... a man who wanted sex and then went on with his life... nevermind what should happen before you hit the bedroom door at night. When he would pressure me for sex, I would show no interest, as I felt used and it was more of a chore to entertain him with sex than it was worth! That was at 6 years of marriage.
At 15 years of marriage, we renewed our love for each other and I'm with him all of the time now. I enjoy the time we share together, as he stopped flirting with other girls to make me not to want to be with him in the first place. He's an awesome man now and a great lover! Best of luck.

Sincerely, Shelia.

Answer 3

Don't approach your wife with this hormonal, menaupause stuff. That would be insulting. She is older than yor and feeling older. I have a friend who married a guy 8 years younger and he loves her to death but sometimes she just feels old. Take her out and hug her in public and get a room at a nice hotel. Have dinner in a busy restaurant, kiss her across the table. Make her see that you are proud of her. She really doesn't want you to get someone else. She needs you to tell her that she is OK.

Answer 4

First off do NOT under any circumstances find another woman. Talk to you wife and tell her AGAIN that she is the only woman you want. Tell her that finding another woman would not only break your promise to her and to God but also only create a problem and that you don't want anything to jeopardize your relationship. Just keep letting her know that you love her with all of your heart and maybe lay off just a little bit on asking for sex. I know that sometimes you may just "have to have it". But you also know your wife and you know how she feels so maybe just work on compromise.....but I repeat do NOT find another younger woman EVER if you want your marriage to last!

Answer 5

Are you complaining that you are not having enough of her? My hubby started complaining last year.I'm 51 he's 47.It makes us feel like we are very old,tired and not enough for them.Look out, she's not old.Listen to the conversation you two have.Mature women hold feelings back and they read all the lines.Slow down and see if she doesn't change.Remember that menopuse can be a factor.If you love her don't find anyone younger...

Answer 6

First of all... DO NOT go searching for a younger woman. That sounds like the type of thing that would be more hurtful than helpful. You need to make her feel beautiful, and desirable, by touching her in non sexual situations and showing her you love her and want her in scenarios other than in the bedroom.

Answer 7

Communicate & Compromise.

Also, if your wife thinks she is too old to enjoy sex, there is a real problem here. Loving couples can enjoy physical intimacy well into their 70s and even 80s.

You may be too demanding. Or lacking in romance. Or perhaps you never help out around the house. Or perhaps you aren't kind or gentle.

She may be too exhausted. Or insecure. Or disinterested. Or her hormones may be out of whack -- she should see her doctor for a check up.

The point is, if you can't reach a compromise, try counseling.

Answer 8

How precisely would a youthful lady make an older guy experience youthful? different than relationship her and attending to have intercourse together with her. So sure, i'd be very disillusioned approximately this and purely the fact that he's chatting with young women persons tells me he's calling for a thrill exterior our union. i'd get out whilst i'm youthful sufficient to get a guy who'd be committed in basic terms to me.

Answer 9

well, if she doesn't love you, then I guess you can't force her to. you can't make someone love you. I think it would be best if you found a woman who's like in her 40's. it's only natural to marry a woman younger than you. like in the Bible times. but if she did love you, then you should remained married to her. if she doesn't, then well, take her advice. i'm sorry about this, though. but remember to love, not lust. it sounds like you love her wife because she has a hot body. wrong reason to love. that's just my opinion. I hope I could help... :-/

Answer 10

Your wife is insecure about herself. Continue encouraging her and building her up. Don't find another woman. That will only lead to an unhappy marriage, for both of you.

She may say that, but she doesn't mean it or want it deep down inside.

Keep building her up, loving her, and showing her that she is all you want.