My ex-boyfren backstabbed me to one of my friends. My ex told her all sorts of unkind things about me and all my mistakes to my friend. As for me, my ex told me that my friend said that I don't deserve him and asked him to leave me. This incident happened when we were still a couple. Because of this, I started hating my friend because of what my ex told me and avoided her as much as possible.
I found out about the backstabbed two days ago after I confronted my friend after we had lunch together. She was the one who wanted to see me. She was shocked to hear what I said. She told me that she sweared she never said anything like that and it was my ex who is always bringing up topic about me and said all those unkind words. She knew something was wrong when I don't call her anymore or speak to her that's why she insisted to meet up for lunch.
I am so confused now. Why did my ex do such a thing to me?
2007-02-09 02:48:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems like he wants everyone to hate me. In fact, the other day he went up and see my friend to tell her more fake stories about me. My friend said he told her that I called him out for lunch.
Well, I did call him out for lunch but with the reason because I treat him as a friend. But my ex told my friend that I am still in love with him and tried to hold his hands during lunch which was totally untrue! The lunch was just a simple chit-chat, that's all!
Why is he doing this to me? I don't understand. The fact that he backstabbed me started when we were still a couple really hurts me alot. What the hell is he doing and using me for???
2007-02-09 02:52:40 · update #1
Probably for the same reason you aren't with him anymore - he's an idiot. Be glad he's your ex, and don't have any further contact with him, or anyone that has contact with him. Trust in your friend - he obviously wanted her out of your life so he could manipulate the situation. Wouldn't it just bug his a $$ if the two of you became friends again ? ! I'd do it out of spite.
2007-02-09 03:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Backstabbed= Gemini, and Taurus women Loyal= Scorpio
2016-03-28 23:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry he is being this way. But you know what I found out the last seven months from experience. That even the most wonderful guy can become a nightmare. I know this. I didnt want to accept my ex is really who he is. But I know for certain he is not a good guy at all. You dont want a freindship with this guy. Let him go. I am, I found out so many lies my ex told me and other things that he did and is still doing!!! Some people are just manipulators and creeps. For your own good and mine, let them go. You do not need this in your life. And I finally realize that everyone meant when they said this all to me. Good luck to you.
2007-02-09 03:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an a$$ and your friend seems suspicious too. A true friend would have told you what your bf said to her at the time. It also seems like your friend and bf spent an awful lot of time together chatting about you. When there's a lack of boundaries like that there's alterior motives. Either they had a "fling" or were thinking about it.
This is just my opinion of course.
2007-02-09 02:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Rayca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a little immature and wants to hurt you.
When I was young and foolish a girlfriend hurt me alot. And none of it was about me, it was all about her having a total disregard for my feelings. I went on to hurt her and it was only about her, about wanting to hurt her as much as she hurt me.
Maybe have a talk with the guy and get to the bottom of what is happening.
This stuff is why the young should not marry, we all need some time to learn how these strong emotions work on us.
2007-02-09 03:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex is a trouble maker so be glad that he is the ex now.If I were you I would not want to be around him any longer and tell your friend to stop also.The guy sounds like a loser to me.
2007-02-09 03:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guess is that he had a crush on your friend and could have tried hitting on her, but she refused since you were her best friend.
So in his anger and his cowerdace, he made you hate your friend so that if he couldn't have her, niether could you. Also he wanted to relationship to end anyways, so he wanted to go out looking good. He probably became bored of you and wanted out.
2007-02-09 02:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is not nice?
You've fixed that problem by making him your ex. Now is the time to move on and devote as little energy on mr. negative as you can. As in ZERO energy.
He's proven even after he's gone that he is not worth your attention.
2007-02-09 02:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nicnac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him,if he see's that he's upsetting you he'll carry on,tell your friend to get lost as well,if she really is a true friend she wouldn't be getting involved like this,she should be on your side,not stirring things up.
2007-02-09 03:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Roots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably your ex just wanted to isolate you from all your friends so that you'd depend on him for whatever reason he had, girl he's twisted.................its a good thing you found out before its to late and that he's a ex and not a current.
2007-02-09 02:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋