My wife goes out maybe twice a month with her sister.
" everyother thursday they meet at olive garden and when she leaves she says that she will be home after dinner. she gets all dressed up and all pretty, i dont understand if its just dinner with her sister why the fuss, normaly they go eat then go shopping or something, thats what im told, she normaly gets home at a decent hours because i work early, this time she didnt get home until 330 am. she called me at like 930 and said they were gonna go to applebees for a few drinks then shell be home. didnt hear from her again until she got home. i was pissed and i made my feelings felt, she said they decided to go to a bar and play pool, we have a pool table at home. she tried to turn it all around on me about trust and spending time with sister. I think she is cheating. but i dont want to think that i trust her but i dont like her actions.
2007-02-09 02:37:46 · 12 answers · asked by justincase119 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For most of your story I was thinking "don't worry about it" until you came to the 3:30 am part. Geez. I can not imagine any scenario on a Thurs night (Fri morning) to be out until 3:30 unless it was not on the up-and-up. You have every right at this point to be suspicious.
Trust has to be earned. And yes, you can have blind trust, but when something happens like you described, its a tought thing to do. Why wouldn't she have called at some point, even to wake you to say, I'm fine, I'm having fun, I'll be a little longer?
In the reverse situation, a woman would have her doubts so you should too.
2007-02-09 02:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by pittsburgh-girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is great to hear that your wife has a "Girl's Night" and you seem to have been very patient. I do think that she maybe should try to work on coming home earlier, but I can pretty well assure you that its all about having fun and not some other guy. As for the makeup, my cousins and I (I have no sisters) go out once every three months and there is NO WAY I'd go w/out being dress up, make up on, and hair done...it's just a girl thing and is a big no no. If it bothers you that much ask her if she and her sisters would be interested in taking less "Girl Nights" so that the two of you can spend that time together.
2007-02-09 05:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told how you felt about the situation. While I do believe 330 am is a little late to be coming home, it doesn't necessarily mean she had to be cheating. If this is a one time incident I think you should let her know how you feel about it which you already did and let it go. If it happens again then you may have to take other actions but for now give her the benefit of the doubt, everybody makes mistakes and she may not have known or realized how disrespectful she was being or how upset you'd be about it. You all need to sit down an lay down some ground rules that neither of you will break.
2007-02-09 03:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by sisimone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your wife is lucky for you to allow her to have that time for herself. i have never been to bars but a male friend told me that men usually pick up girls from the bar whom they met for the first time. just consider what kind of crowd and atmosphere that place is with the drinking and smoking and checking out people. 3:30 am is an ungodly hour to be away from home unless you're single. let's say she's not cheating but staying up late like that is unacceptable for a married person even though her sister is with her for an excuse. wake up.
2007-02-09 05:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems rather odd... but why is it you didnt' call her before she got home anyway? That's a long time to go without hearing from her. I think you need to just sit her down and talk about it. Communication is a wonderful thing.
2007-02-09 04:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time you should go with your gut. not anything on here are saying but a word of advise, dont jump to conclusions. set her aside and simply tell her there is something on your mind and ask her if after dinner you guys can talk without any complications and argueing. should help. dont get mad and be calm it will make her more comfy to tell you if there was something wrong.
2007-02-09 03:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by sally m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what i had the same problem with my husband, he'd go out with his brother all the time then i wised up and put a tracking device on his car i found him at a motel with not one but two men now we're in the middle of a divorce, be wise and check things out cause if u have the feeling then it's probably true
2007-02-09 03:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until the next time she goes out to meet her sister and then follow her. Usually if you have a feeling someone is cheating, it's true.
2007-02-09 03:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 22:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Investigate! But don't let her know of your suspicions anymore, or she will be more careful, and if she doesn't think you have a clue, she will trip herself up. If you know she goes to eat with her sister, then go and see for yourself and then check up on her to see where she goes after. It is that simple.
2007-02-09 03:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋