Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughtd out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to thje time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I Am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit
2007-02-09 02:37:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to look at a more short term solution. Why not adopt an attitude of "we will enjoy each other's company as much as we can" and not worry about "what ifs". But, if you are comfortable in his company, if you think he is a good friend that you can see yourself spending your life with, I think you are being unfair to yourself by having these doubts about your love.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 02:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by anonymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just scared. The more fantastic a relationship is the greater the hurt would be if it ended. Your defence mechanisms are going up to try to protect yourself. Don't end up self-sabotaging this relationship so u don't get hurt. Know that u have found someone who honestly cares for u and allow yourself to flow with the feelings u have for him. Take the risk, rather then the easy way out. Know that u deserve this kind of love and enjoy it without thinking negative thoughts.
2007-02-09 03:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
I had the same problem a few months ago with my ex boyfriend.
I thought to myself that if i just leave it and didnt think of it again, it will go away on it's own , but it didnt !
Sometimes people just grow apart, that happens and that can alsow mean that your feelings will most likely be chancing to for that matter. You seem to feel more friendly and safe with your boyfriend now, than you seem like soul mates in love.
Remember relationships changes too.
2007-02-09 02:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by catschlengeman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The anti anxiety meds will probably help you to feel somewhat better about this. Don't worry so much....go with your feelings today and enjoy this day and not to worry about tomorrow. You love him so enjoy your time together. If the time comes when your feelings change, deal with it then. Sometimes you just have to trust yourself for the moment.
2007-02-09 02:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating others. See if that tells you anything.
2007-02-09 02:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wnat happiness? Then imagine your happy.
2007-02-09 02:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋