My Husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have two children one that is a little over 2 and one that is 5 months old. Both pregnanies were awful and with this lastr one there were multiple surgeries needed. I am extremely tired, but my husband is complaining that the spark has left our relationship. I do agree, we are the best of friends and love each other completely, but I was under the impression that this would resolve itself once we get over this hump. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Is it wrong of me to wonder why he can't?
2007-02-09 02:35:41 · 6 answers · asked by wifemom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he is thinking the children are in you lives forever. Well they are, but it doesn't mean your life has to end and this is what he is thinking. Hire a baby sitter and give yourselves the day off. On that day off - be sure to talk about ways to have time for your relationship together. Goof Luck.
2007-02-09 02:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are different, of course you knew that.
His inexperience at being a husband and father is not wrong it just is. He knows the problems that you have had with the births and the post partum time. The problem is he knows but can't identify with it.
He wants you to be like you were (I'm sure you want to be, also).
It's going to be a tough time, but as you say, there is light at the end of the tunnel, give him time.
There is a nice website called http://www.romance-your-wife.com/ that I have found to be very helpful in keeping romance alive.
2007-02-09 11:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bond is intact emotionally and you can still get a zing when he enters the room, try approaching him about your concerns. It isn't uncommon at all for both men and women to be a bit anxious in the romance dept. after having children early in a relationship. Is he aware how tired you are and is he willing to support you in your need for assistance with housekeeping and child rearing. Once the ice is broken and you voice your concerns, there will be a smoother road ahead and then everything will begin to fall into place.
2007-02-09 11:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by jlsmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he would understand that this has been a tough time for your family and your relationship might be strained, but maybe you could suggest some counseling or just sit down and talk about your problems, i mean a marriage takes work, i definitely think you should both try and see if you can work things out before you just give up, good luck.
2007-02-09 10:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words... show him the light and he will see it.... just talk about the light and you'll leave him in the dark.
2007-02-09 11:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something crazy, spontaneous and fun. Something he'd never expect.
2007-02-09 11:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Click 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋