if so, under what conditions..? not everyone has a nice spouse..one that wants to 'talk' about problems ..that are willing to go for counceling... mine wont even leave me.(even tho he says hes not 'in love' with me anymore).and makes me feel SO guilty for feeling like maybe we should part ways..im lonely,tierd and in need of some physical attention!! '-)
kinda lost and dont know what to do! ideas, comments..?
im 29 hes 37.
2007-02-09 02:26:37 · 21 answers · asked by lisa baby... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No - Dont cheat. Get a divorce and screw who ever and how many you want! Once you cheat, you'll keep cheating and lying.
2007-02-09 03:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never did on my last wife we were together for a lil more the 9 years. But all my others I did at one time or another,usually when the relationship is going the wrong way, or mutual understanding, either way it was all good let go of the guilt and enjoy the ride.
Hey it is either there with your ol man or not, why wait til he got all the strings at least play the field and flirt and get excited,like your supposed to do. Remember when your heart pounded and your breath was getting deeper and that warm wet feeling came over you, and then when you finally did it with that person you were almost there b4 he even got in,and you came b4 he did while he was still hard? Now that is what you should be getting .
if not why not?
2007-02-12 08:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse and that i discussed it one evening and we both understood that if both human beings were to cheat are marriage may be over from time to time in existence there are not any 2d possibilities so that you extra effective make the finest of your first. 3 yrs later we were given the chance to work out what takes position even as a pal of my spouse's were given stuck and he or she paid an exceptionally heavy value. the biggest situation is cheaters not in any respect totally comprehend the consequences till that's to previous due. Her pal especially a lot lost each little thing and that i imagine if each person were to ask her if it became worth it she likely may say no.
2016-11-26 19:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never cheat in a marriage. It is a contract between the two spouses and GOD> My wife and I are 31 years married. I am as crazy about her as the moment that we first married. We have been Christians for the last twenty years and I would have it no other way. GOD has given me strength to do things that I could never have done otherwise. HE has given me friends that I would never have met. HE has given me hope that I could NEVER get anywhere else. I would suggest that you begin by reading and studying the scriptures below. If you want to contact me about anything here, please do so.
Study these scriptures and see what you think. To become a Christian:
1. HEAR - Romans 10:14 How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher?
2. BELIEVE - In Mark 16:16, Jesus said “He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.”
3. REPENT - Luke 13:3 I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish.
4. CONFESS CHRIST - 1 Timothy 6:12 Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.
5. BE BAPTIZED - Romans 6:3-4 do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.
6. CONTINUE TO BE FAITHFUL - Jesus said in Matthew 7:21 "Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.”
Send me a note if you have questions. I am anxious to hear from you. Have a Great day.
Eds
2007-02-09 02:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cheat. it'll make things even worse than they already are. You, being an emotionally driven soul, would have to bear with excessive guilt long after the act is done.
I would suggest that even if he won't go to a support group or marriage counseling, you should consider it for yourself. get involved with a church group if that is your faith, otherwise do what is going to be best for you (including the option of getting a divorce) Take some time to re-find you you really are and what you want out of life, then when you are ready to start dating again (should you decided to divorce him) you will be able to find the man who will pay you all the emotional and physical attention you need.
good luck.
2007-02-09 02:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never will i ever cheat on my spouse for whatever reason. I'm married for better or for worse till death do us part. Make up your mind!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
The above is what the word of God has to say about LOVE, even if you're not a Christian, you can become one now to have the peace and love of Jesus Christ. A child of God is never lost or feels alone even if all forsakes him/her. Our God cares!
My suggestions!!!
Plz, look within. I mean take a good look at yourself to see what has made your husband fall out of love with you. Instead of being critical, emotional, and nagging, change your response to your husband's behavior or attitude towards you. Yes, i said, you change.........open up those powerful feminine attributes you got to win your husband back. Be more loving, more caring, more respectful. You can do it, bring back the fires of love/passions that were once there. Marriage is to complete each other not to compete with each other.
Be honest, get close to your husband, be a WIFE. Find out if he's got some personal problems, find out if he's also got some problems with you as a wife and tell him you're ready to talk about it and change for the better. BE HONEST in all these.
Your approach matters. Before you talk with your partner, ask yourself these three questions. Are you feeling defensive? If you are, take a step back. You may not be ready to speak to your partner. Are you feeling desperate? If you are, take a step back. You may not be ready to speak with your partner. Are you feeling resentful and angry? If you are, take a step back. You may not be ready to speak with your partner. Just remember: the ball is in your court.
A happy and fulfilling relationship starts with you. If you'd drop pride and do your job well your husbands won't be able to resist a loving and caring wife. Men love to be around women who celebrate them.
Give out love and you'll receive back love. Its that simple!
2007-02-09 03:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope i would never ever cheat on my spouse. No reason for it. If you dont want to be with your spouse any more then let them go with a divorce and after the divorce is final then find a new person to love and be with. Your spouse needs to go to counselling with you since they want to work on the marriage with you. Go to counselling with them and try to make it work. If he wont go with you then go to counseling for you! Ask him if he wants a divorce and if he does tell him to file and then leave and seperate from him if he is no longer pleased to dwell with you as husband and wife.
2007-02-09 02:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NEVER !! lf things are getting you down so badly and your hubby has no intention of changing, leave him and look for love elsewhere. You should never cheat on your partner. Cheating never solves problems, it just creates more. Best of luck.
2007-02-09 02:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u aren't loved than it is best to get a divorce and not cheat on your husband. as it always comes out sooner or later, no matter what the circumstances are one needs to divorce a spouse first before cheating on them.
2007-02-09 02:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Never. No matter how bad it gets.
That's not to say there aren't conditions under which I might divorce, but I would never cheat on her. That would make me scum.
2007-02-09 02:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋