I have no where to go, I have treid to leave but no one will house me, Im not battered so cant go into a refuge, and no one can take me a the three children. Their homes are not big enough...phoned the police, but they wouldn't kick him out as it his home too, I asked and forced him to leave but he wont go, so now what do I do.
I stuck in this situation, with a man who lies about everything, drinks excessively, and when you try to talk to him he says "whatever".
What on earth does that mean, its not even gramatical!
2007-02-09 02:26:13 · 21 answers · asked by jamiehattie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel your pain!!! My husband is the same way! He lies about everything! I never know when he is telling the truth! And you are right if you are not being physically abused then shelters won't take you. I know I have tried! And I to have 3 children and I am scared that they will think that this is typical behavior!
My heart goes out to you because I know how you feel1 It is like being on a dead end road! Hopefully you will be able to find a place to go! Best of Luck to you and you kids!
2007-02-09 02:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
leave. tell them at the shelter that you are battered... how are they going to know.
you have to be physically separated for 30 days before filing for divorce.
file for divorce.
go now today and file for a based on your income apartment for you and the kids. it may take a while to get in there but at least you will have a plan.
then work to get it in. get away from him, your first job is to protect your children and what kind of role model is he.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT....
cut your losses.
and when he says but i love you and dont WANT a divorce.. say, "WHatever"
2007-02-09 10:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are living with a nightmare by the sounds of it. He is a failure in all directions and so he takes the blase attitude that he doesn't care. Men are great at lying because if they are not happy with whom they are, they will make out they are something much better. You need to go to Citizens advice bureau and tell them your story, if you are not working you should be entitled to free legal aid for a solicitor, they will have to move you if they feel that your children are in danger and so are you, if their is a drunk alcoholic about.You need to live somewhere else away from him and the kids do too. The fact that he drinks excessively and doesn't care what you have to say is a very bad sign. People that drink a lot can be violent and he could take it out on you and the children. You have to seek help and police are not the answer.
2007-02-09 10:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All people lie - men, women, rich, poor, tall, short, young, old, etc...
You must first leave since you are in danger. Since you have access to a computer, go to Yahoo or Google and enter "battered women shelter" and the name of your state in the search engine. Hit the enter key and follow through. You and your babies don't need this.
There are numerous women's shelters throughout the country but you need to find the one closest to you and be decisive and strong. Don't listen to anything he has to say, ignore the "i'm sorry", ignore the "cards & flowers" stage and don't look back. Things will not change until he realizes that he has a problem, gets help and gets fixed, which often takes years.
Don't wait - leave now...
2007-02-09 10:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I feel for you - my mum was in the same situation when I was 15 and doing my CSEs. 4 Children and a lying, violent husband. Even today, 40 years later just the sound of a curtain kind of row locks me up.
We ran - put ourselves on the council who put us in temp accommodation. I don't know if any still exists. Check that out. Your worth more than a living nightmare.
By the way 'whatever' is just a nasty put down from a person who does not care.
2007-02-09 10:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Freethinking Liberal 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call a lawyer, start the divorce process siting all the issues you have raised here, if you get a good lawyer not only will he get him out of the house but he'll also get him for lawyer fees, child support and possible alimony. Best wishes, stay Strong for the children!
2007-02-09 10:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because we can't face the consequences of the truth, either consciously or sub-conscoiusly.
You have to separate yourself from him mentally (no easy feat), keep yourself intact, and work to a position of getting out of there physically asap.
'Whatever' means 'I don't care' big time.
Lying means I don't know how to care, it's the same message...
Gettouttathere... you can always go back if you want to....
If it's that bad make yourself homeless in someone's place and get them to tell the authorities that it has created an impossible situation for them... any which way, do it....
2007-02-09 10:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by steveb9458 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Marie,
Your situation sounds very difficult but you always have choices. You could choose to to divorce him on unreasonable grounds. He would then have to leave the material home but please take advice on this also. Is this something you feel you might want to do, or have to or are you brave enough.
Do you still love the man ?
2007-02-09 10:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Discover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every one lies. some more than others. male or female doesnt make a difference.
1. Stay put
2. Consult a lawyer- make out a case of child/wife abuse- File to law authoriies.
2007-02-09 10:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by kapilbansalagra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
/women lie, too. Also, you might want to divorce the guy or leave him and find a place for you and your kids. Stand up for yourself, don't wait for someone to try and house you and your kids, find your own arrangements. Take charge of your life instead of living under someone's conditions.
2007-02-09 10:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Muga Wa Kabbz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋