In all walks of life humans go with appearance
1. When buying a car you go for the colour and shape coz that's what is attractive to you
2.When buying food you mainly go for the packaging because it looks nice on first glance
is this true in first meeting someone ? without speaking to them you firstly find them attractive, it's what "turned you on" to them. So to say people don't go for looks is a little bit of a fib isn't it ! (?)
2007-02-09 02:25:03 · 18 answers · asked by Red5 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You'e probkebably right.
2007-02-09 02:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sluugy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are right to a certain extent but we can be attracted to many things..hands hair , voice and personality ...what about those who meet over the phone or over the net we can feel attracted to things we can't even explain..liking someone that goes against everything we thought to be physically attractive not being able to put our finger on what 'It' is but that there is something... isn't unheard of. How many times in your own life have you said of a new friend 'they are not really my type but!...' I believe that we are each surrounded by an energy that attracts or repels certain people and this can be the thing we cannot put our finger on but its there ...unseen and just as powerful as any physical 'hook'. The most attractive thing to me is a smile...genuine eye reaching smile...everything else comes second... Oh and one more thing ...we might lust after a new car because of the shape or the colour but if we lift the bonnet to find there is no engine we would soon lose interest in it ...if you see what I mean!
2007-02-09 12:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by silver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that 70 % of your first decision on somebody goes with just the look. A persons appearance can tell a lot to other people on the level of attracteness. A smoker is not attractive, somebody who is fit and healthy looking is. It is all to do with the cave man approach. Personality of course is the most important thing and the physical appearence becomes less important as you connect with the person. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
2007-02-09 10:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Discover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may well be true if you are deliberately on the `look-out` for someone, but is un-true if you are not doing so. For example you may meet someone for business, where `love` is the last thing on your mind but as you gradually begin to know them you may find their sense of humour endearing, or perhaps their manners, or kindness or helpfulness. These are the things which have attracted you and they certainly over-ride looks, money etc. Certainly this is the way a woman approaches such an item.
2007-02-09 10:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In answer I pose a question... If you see a member of the opposite sex you consider good looking, then they act in an appauling way to everyone around them, and are rude, disgusting and loud. Would you still want to approach them and start a converation..? So I consider looks as part of the initial attraction but not all. Just as with your car, yes, you like the look but without an engine you wouldn't even consider it.
2007-02-09 11:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no - Body language accounts for 55% of communications, 38% is sub language, IE. the way you say something.
When people first meet, they take in so much through the body language including stuff with is sub conscious. We choose a person who best suites our needs.
We also tend to pick a person who is about the same level of looks.
2007-02-09 10:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Freethinking Liberal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, the first attraction is physical but it does not last if you do not have a personality to back it up,
but I'm attracted by the way a girl interacts with me, does not matter what she looks like...
2007-02-09 10:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by stoutseun69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight away it is definately looks that get you interested, its only after a person has met and talked to someone a number of times and seem to connect that they can say its not looks they go for. No-one is attracted straight away to someone they do not find attractive, the attraction has to grow from somewere.
2007-02-09 10:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally, on average we judge whether we like someone within the first 3 seconds of seeing or meeting them! We can't help it though, its an automatic feature of humans!!!!!
2007-02-09 10:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by little_miss_mystical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of what you say but its mainly women who choose by the looks of things not the man.
same with food .
Men are more supple and will choose on merit and not always of the looks but personatily.
2007-02-10 12:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by SAMANTHA H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. For example, at school there is a girl who is not physically attractive but I find her personality attractive.
2007-02-09 10:28:02 · answer #11 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋