I'm tired of telling my husband that his relationship with his "girlfriends" hurt me so much. He talks on the phone with them for so long & now I find that he "loaned" money to one behind my back. I don't know these women and I don't know where he meets them. I confronted him with evidence, and that's when he finally 'fessed up. Now I'm scared that if I stay he'll keep doing this and I can't enjoy this marriage if I always have to keep an eye on him. We've only been married for a month.
2007-02-09 02:23:26 · 11 answers · asked by sweetginger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget it..get the marriage annulled. I have a baby with a guy and he was doing exactly the same thing you are..He was meeting attractive young women taking them out for coffee or hanging otu with them and hiding it from me and turning off his phone and then lying about it after busting him. I was so sick of being in a relationship with a womanizer and also he refused to change..he said he would not tell me who his friends were or he would not tell me when he had them. He expected me to maintain the home while he was out socializing with these women he had to keep hidden from me. I gave him the boot and what do you know three weeks later he is seeing one of these women romantically he wont tell me who though because he says i will just get mad. I am so glad to be rid of him and realize life has more to offer then bastards who dont respect or care about my feelings..im about a family not some jerk who messes around with women behind my back.
Get out and get the marriage annuled..you still have time for that and do not let him back no matter how much he cries hes going to change because there is a 90 percent chance he will not.
2007-02-09 11:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Be glad its only been a month. Can you imagine how you'd feel being married 20 years and finding all this out? No trust in your marriage and don't play any games with him to see if he will change. Loving you doesn't include having his cake and eating pie on the side when cake doesn't sound good at te time. Right????? Go get you a hot fudge sundae but get out of the situation first or you will be classified in the same catagory as him.
2007-02-09 10:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you're joking. But, on the off chance you actually are asking, then no don't leave him. That would be a mistake. Instead, boot his silly butt out the door. Then, either hubby grows up, or you divorce him, and find yourself a grownup man, that stays with his own spouse. As for hubby, IF he begged, and crawled through fire to ask for another chance, then it would be reasonable to give it to him. Sometimes guys need a little wake up call to remember what matters.
2007-02-09 21:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is he remorselful and sorry for what he has done? If so then ask him to go to marriage counseling with you. If however he does not seem to care and wants to keep doing this then move out and file for divorce on the grounds of adultery.
2007-02-09 10:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
only a month well he is not acting like he cares about you or respects you at all yeah I think this is bordorline cheating so I don't recommend leaving usually unless there is cheating but in your case thats just as bad emotional affairs hurt as much as physical affairs and are just as wrong and breaking vows so yeah I would kick his *** to the curb and make him prove to you that he is not gonna be a cheater
2007-02-09 10:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you will NEVER enjoy this marriage if hes doing this a month into it. kick his *** out file for divorce and get as much money as you can. he does not love you if he is doing this.
2007-02-09 10:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Arraya 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yes go somewhere else for a while. sometimes husbands just need wakeup calls. they think as long as you do nothing about it , that is giving them a green light to continue their undesirable behavior.
2007-02-09 10:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by KAREBEAR 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hello swetginger you dont have to put up with that stuff at all gal dump him especially it is only a month not good marriage at all
2007-02-09 10:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by harold g 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk. Trust is essential for any relationship to work.
2007-02-09 10:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jouvert 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Annul it while you can.
2007-02-09 10:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ginger 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋