I'm looking for a practical answer, rather than a dictionary definition!
It seems easy enough to spot the difference in other people -- but how does a man distinguish the two in himself?
2007-02-09 02:14:20 · 14 answers · asked by Monkey Puzzle 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Self-esteem is knowing your true worth and accepting your faults without feeling negative.
Vanity is thinking you are worth more than others and not seeing your own faults.
It's the difference between saying "I deserved that pay-rise because I worked really hard and used my talents" and "I deserved that pay-rise because I'm the best"
2007-02-09 02:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Shona L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vanity has more to do with being concerned about how you look and what others will think.
Self esteem is a sense of self that is positive. You know you are worthy and are as valuable as a person as anyone else. You know you have the same rights as other people have, no more , no less. It does not mean thinking you are better than other people. It just means you accept yourself, and realize you are good at some things (that you can name) and that you also have weaknesses that you need to improve.
You still can work on improving your self. That is always good.
Conceit is a false sense of being the best at everything. There may be some things in which you are very good, or maybe one or two where you can honestly say you are "the best" but blowing this out of proportion and drawing attention to it means you are getting into the obnoxious attitude of conceit. If you have to be better than everyone at everything, you are not being realistic, you are probably out to prove yourself because you are lacking in self esteem. Conceit is not taking self esteem too far, it is a totally different thing. conceit is false pride or a false sense of superiority. it's a cover-up for not being OK with who you are.
2007-02-09 02:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that people see a serious relationship as something that has been going on for a long period of time, but there are certain factors needed to keep that relationship alive. I believe that a serious relationship is is when the two people are committed, faithful, and most importantly, truly in love, because of course, a relationship isn't really a relationship if you don't love your significant other. Respect for one another, trust, unending support, good communication, etc. are also things that assure a road to an amazing relationship. I'm 14, and I've had two relationships. My first relationship (when I was 13) lasted 1 year and 5 months. And my second is the one that I'm currently in now... and so far we've been together for 11 months, and I know that I am in love with him. Now, I know most people would say, "no, that's too young," but it's true, I am in love with him - we were very close best friends for a long time before getting together and we spent every day together and every night on the phone - and we still do.
2016-05-24 01:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-esteeem can be high or low and is always an internal thought and feeling, by definition.
Vain/Vanity is a word that people rarely use about themselves.
I think vanity equates to a higher than deserved self-esteem in others.
2007-02-09 02:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by steveb9458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think self esteem is having a healthy attitude about yourself. Feeling good about yourself and who you are as a person. Vanity is more about being a bit obsessed with your looks. If you spend more time in the mirror than your g/f does....you're vain!
2007-02-09 08:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vanity is low self esteem someone who is vane always wants to know that they look good they look in mirrors they ask others. Some one with self esteem can look in the Mirror and see that they look ok and trust that judgment enough to not have to get reassurance.
2007-02-09 04:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were looking at a person and thought they were rather vane - it would be because he / she would be putting across a very self righteous feeling . Now if I knew a person with 'self-esteem' I would pat them on the back and say go for it - by yourself though. Now the ideal person should have a little modesty and that by far out weighs v/s-e.....to be a nicer person.
2007-02-09 03:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vanity is the outer appearance of ones self. Making sure that he/she is beautiful all of the time.
Self esteem is the inner self. Feeling confident and knowing that you dont have to look at the mirror before you leave the door.
2007-02-09 02:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Vanity is more a show off than the one that only is proud(rightly or not) of himself....That would be how i differentiate the two !
2007-02-09 02:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by talkingformydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-14 12:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋