2007-02-09 02:05:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Not if your marriage be going well.
2007-02-09 02:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dane Aqua 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked your self why? Could it be that you share more with your friend, more open and trusting? You don't feel threatened or judged by your friend, so you are more willing to share.
If you were to act upon it, dose your friend feel the same? or would you likely lose a friend, and your husband? You are talking about an entire lifestyle change. Think things through before you act, and if you do act upon your feelings, be aware that things might not work out how you had planned.
2007-02-09 02:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are looking at doing something that can have one positive outcome, and a whole bunch of negative ones.
If your girlfriend actually reciprocates those feelings and is sexually interested in you, you could find yourself in a wonderful romance. That would be fun for both of you... as long as your husband doesn't find out. But if he does find out, you have to worry about his reaction.
While a lot of guys think the idea of two women together is hot, it's a different story when it's his wife doing it behind his back, and being emotionally involved. Some guys won't be able to handle it.
If he doesn't think it's hot, you've just cheated on your husband, and may have ruined your marriage.
He could also think it is very hot, and want to join you both. Now you have to consider whether you want to let your husband have sex with another woman, and whether your friend would be hot for him. If either of those answers ends up being no, you now have hard feelings to deal with.
And, you don't indicate whether or not your girlfriend is sexually interested in you. If she isn't and you approach her, you may harm your friendship. Your husband may also find out.
Unless you have discussed this in depth with your husband, you are against long odds. It isn't impossible, and I am not advising you to NOT do it. I'm also not advising you TO do it. I'm pointing out some of your possible outcomes. You need to decide what to do, and be prepared to live with the consequences.
Whatever you decide, good luck to you.
2007-02-09 02:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Garylian 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same exact situation 5 months after I got married. Exactly.....
Are these feelings new for you, meaning have you ever felt closer to any other female besides your current g/f before you realized these feelings for her. Does your husband know about your feelings towards her? Does she know about the closeness you're feeling for her? I talked with my girlfriend about my feelings and we took our friendship to the next level. It felt right to me and it felt right for her. I ended up leaving my husband and started the most beautiful relationship with my girlfriend. I have never in my life felt more complete. I was so scared but the fear has since left and I have never been more happy. I fell in love with her and I want to make her happy as she does with me. I don't necessarily think that you need to talk with your husband about your feelings before you talk with her, especially if he's not accepting towards gays/lesbians/bisexuals/transgenders.... Maybe you & your girlfriend could rent a movie (Imagine Me & You is a good one; its exactly like what you're describing) or maybe suggest going to a gay/lesbian bar or a small cozy coffee shop to hang out with her...see how she feels about it. Its definitely a tough situation, I'm sure you love your husband...but its hard to deny the close feelings that you're having with your girlfriend... i completely understand what you're going through. If you would like any other thoughts or need to talk, let me know. :) I have so many questions and would love to help you out....wow, I have been there. Good luck to you & you will figure out the best route to take in life...you may have a few detours but life is a journey and I wish you all the best once you find your true destination... :)
2007-02-09 04:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by rainbow44 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a little confused. Do you mean girl friend or girlfriend? If she is just a friend do you just feel close to her or are you physically attracted to her? I think a lot of females feel emotionally connected to their girl friends but they aren't lesbian per say. If your physically attracted to her you should talk to her about your feelings then talk to your husband. I think it would be very disrespectful to act upon your feelings without speaking to your husband, after all, you did make a commitment to him.
2007-02-09 02:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by OU 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what do you mean much closer to your girlfriend than to your husband? you are married to your husband,you know your husband before you get married to him right? If your not closer to your husband why you married him in the first place? how do you communicate to your husband? do you know your husband at all? cmon girl wake up now.
2007-02-09 02:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chimelle 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes! most men like would like that. Only if you invite him with the sexual adventures with the other woman. Or he can just sit back and watch. And plz post a video on youtube.com since we people have no life.
2007-02-09 02:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by James S 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen, nobody knows you but you, so do what you feel like you should. If you need to act on it please do for your peace of mind. If you don't you will regret it from now on.
2007-02-09 02:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you videotape it and post it on youtube.
2007-02-09 02:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Skeezix 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
YES!
2007-02-09 03:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋