How many times a week do you and your partner have "relations" on average?
What do you think is too little?
Why?
When is it ok for things to slow down?
Honest answers only please...
2007-02-09 02:05:10 · 7 answers · asked by xxkittenluvxx143 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Reason I asked:
We went from the begining - every time we saw each other
to
Now maybe once a week.
I just started going to school at night 3x a week till 9 ish
work 9-5 mo -fri
and work sat 4 till 10
He wants to but never initiates it because he fears me rejecting him since im always so tired
I am the one who initiates it when ever we do.
I'm afraid no that we arent seeing eachother as much as b4 AND our sex life is slow that things will fall apart.
He has fully expressed being scared that I am not attracted to him any more... and I am.
What can we do?
2007-02-09 02:30:05 · update #1
Married 8 years, together for 12. I am 33, she is 32. 2 kids.
There is barely anything you could call "average" for us. It has been anywhere between none for a few months (real bad) to our current situation - which is 15 times in the last 6 days.
I personally wish it would stabilize at around 5-6 times a week. The lows are frustrating and the highs are exhausting.
2007-02-09 02:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Together 1 1/2, living together the past 9 months.
On average usually a week i'd say about 4 times, on usual weeks. I think after a year or maybe even less it slows down a little but shouldnt go really a week without it (unless of course there is a reason) in my opinion. I guess some people would get upset about it, like their partner doesnt love or want them any more or is bored, but to me I see it as when you 1st meet you don't know eachother well and its all you do but once you are together a long time & know everything about the person you can actually enjoy just spending time with them & its not just about the sex
2007-02-09 10:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my b/f have been together for 1 1/2 years, I have 2 kids and am pregnant. On average I'd say we have sex 4-5 times a week. Some weeks are slower for good reasons.
The least I would expect is 2x a week, but that is just me.
I think it's important for the passion to stay alive so I wouldn't expect things to slow down unless there's a good reason. Everyone is different though, depends on both of your sex drives etc.
2007-02-09 10:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no correct answer to this question. Everyone is different and every couple is different. In a long term relationship there are ups and downs. currently my husband and are are having sex once or twice daily, at least once. Every once in a while we have a dry spell where it's only about four or five times a week. If you want to slow down, let your spouse know. It's okay to be tired sometimes, or just not in the mood. Married for years and have two kids.
2007-02-09 10:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I who were together for over a year sometimes would have sex sometimes over 3 times a day almost everyday.
I don't think there is a correct answer for too little or when things slow down unless someone in the relationship is unhappy. Sex however, is a big part of a relationship, and it could change a lot if there is a problem in the bedroom.
2007-02-09 10:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my partner and i have recently split up and we were together for 5 years and for the last year and a half of our relationship we hardly ever er m had "relations" i think betwwen kids and business you end up just tired and stressed and for us there was always work to do and bills to pay and kids always needed something you end up feeling like you just dont have the energy.
2007-02-09 10:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every day, on days off- few times a day. Nothing's wrong with a healthy sex life!
2007-02-09 10:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋