My boyfriend is from India, I am British. I have been with him a yr now but his family in india do not know about me. he always says he will tell them but never does. I feel like he's hiding me. He's living 200 miles away from me at the moment and its very hard as i only see him once a month (due to our jobs). Its lasted this long so there must be something special, but i'm fed up of being hidden. he knows how i feel but says it is hard for him because of the culture and society, he says his parents wont agree. I do love him but im not sure how much longer i should go like this. What should i do?
2007-02-09 01:59:22 · 9 answers · asked by YOLA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he really loves you , he would not hide you from his parents i would tell him that if this realationship is going to continue .the parents need to meet you and go from there
2007-02-09 02:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by shortyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cultural differences may be the reason he won't tell his family about you. He may be waiting to see where your relationship is going before he tells them. For all you know he could get disowned and if you guys break up he's left with no girlfriend AND no family. Think about what you may be asking him to give up but placing an ultimatum. The other thing with him living 200 miles away, your relationship is not at all that committed. For all you know he is already married or serious with someone else and you have no way of knowing with the distance and seriously with once a month visits you can't honestly think either of you truly know the other one. I think you guys have a lot of other things to work through long before he should be expected to share you with his parents.
2007-02-09 10:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rayca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he probably says the same things to all the other girls too.
Build your self respect and find a real partner. You know what I mean.
I don't want to sound mean, but this is the oldest trick men play on women.
2007-02-09 10:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not telling his family he is defintely hiding something. Most families don't approve of everything we do but will accept are choices.
2007-02-09 10:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i... i have indian frinds and i tell you one thing if he is hiding.. then he is hiding loads of other things like perhaps he is engaged, or parents ahve decided something... if he is a true man and love and sees a future for you both then he shoudl step up... and tell all.... that is my opinion...
2007-02-09 10:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard because of cultures but talk 2 him about it and try work a comprimise let him meet ur family first?....
2007-02-09 10:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with the culteral difference he obviously afraid to tell his parents.He dont want to disappoint them....know what i mean?But tell him that he has to tell them and that you love him and you want to be with him but you cant stand him hidding you from his parents....(have you told your parents about him?)if so tell him its not that hard!!!!unless his family is a buch of freaks...(no offense)
2007-02-09 10:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did it ever occur to you he could be married yep he could be and then he dones't want them to know get rid of him
2007-02-13 01:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't tell his family about u he doesn't intend on doing it. you may be wasting your time, may be no future with him.
2007-02-09 10:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋