I recently saw my bf in the same internet chatroom where he and I met. He recently gave me crabs which he swore he got from bed linen at his college dorm (whatever). Knowing this was unlikely, I went under a different user name, stole a pic of a random cute guy off the internet, and chatted with him. Sure enough, he said he'd like to go out and stuff. I realize I did something dishonest but with my crab infection, I think I had cause too. How do I bring this up in our breakup talk later today? I also realize I need to get tested for other STDs so I don't need any encouragement to do that. What is your advice on how to bring this up in my talk with him though?
2007-02-09 01:53:44 · 6 answers · asked by Brad R 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry to hear about what your going through, I would just be honest and bring that the reason your going through this break up is because of the resent issue on the Internet not only that but for the crabs that he gave you...these are just a couple of the things you are copping with....and just lay all the cards on the table but don't be one of those persons that break up and about 2 weeks later take them back....take a stand, have some self respect. Because last thing you want is to catch something far worse the crabs!
2007-02-09 02:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
i don't think what you did was dishonest as you were checking out his truthfulness. I would just ask him point blank what did you do to make him want to keep on looking on the internet and see what he says. Probably not much you did but he is obviously still cruising and you might as well get it over with. I don't think he can say anything as he was the one who was still out there cheating on you.
2007-02-09 02:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good advise from Marc Miami. That is one way of handleing the situation.
If you just want to end it and stop being cheated on; then I suggest just using this as amunition for why you are wanting to break up with him.
If you still love him, do try to get it some help.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 02:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some very good web sites for the 12 step group called 'Codependents Anonymous', and they have alot of good advice on how not to be a 'doormat.'
Someone who jeopardizes their relationship by having compulsive sex is probably a sex addict, which might qualify their bf as co-dependent. To stop enabling this fellow's sex addiction, you need some good advice from folks who have been down this road.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 02:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Marc Miami 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he still browses the chat rooms and meets guys. If he says no, tell him what you did. Since you did prove he has been cruising the chats, you need to be up front with him
2007-02-09 02:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zero Tolerance. Let him know now that you're on to his games and he is about to become your ex boyfriend.
2007-02-09 02:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋