my husband and i are having trouble conceiving. His friend and his g/f are talking about having a baby and they have both been tested and are sure to fall preg soon. When i heard this i was so upset, jealous felt lousy about myself and very depressed that i can't give my husband at least 1 child.
does feeling envy or even hard towards them make me a bad person? i have never felt anything like this before
2007-02-09 01:42:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
sorry i meant hate towards them but some reason i typed hard....no idea???
2007-02-09 01:43:06 · update #1
You are not a bad person you are human!!
My husband and I have been TTC for 8 years now and EVERY friend I have is prego now or has kids, My husband and I are jealous and sometimes I can not even go to friends houses, parties and things becasue I can not be around the kids! I can not stand when people say... oh give it time, or someday you will have it , and if I hear one more time stop thinking about it and it will happen I will SCREAM!!!
Remember there is NO ONE and I mean NO ONE that can tell you how to feel, you are going to feel the way you want... if you have hard feelings or envy you are being human...just don't let it mess up friendships... if you need to step away from them for some time until you can deal with it. I am lucky to have understanding friends and I have walked away from some of them for some time but I have found my way back to them!
I wish and pray for you and your husband... I am in the same boat... your not alone! wish you all the the best!
2007-02-09 02:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by A Friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all..Trust me woman who are wanting to get pregnant so bad but are have alot of difficulty are around other couples who can conceive with no problem feel some envy towards them due to the fact that you wish it was you ect. So many feelings smack you all at once i feel this way all the time because like you i'm having major difficulty getting pregnant with no reason why i have had everything checked out and all is good, but i didnt get a period for about a year then my doctor did a progesterone challenge on me and i had a 5 day heavy period...talk to your doctor about clomid, their are also some things you can try taking that are natural like vitex, red clover, red raspberry(herbs)...you can pick them up at your local health food store...good luck and lots of baby dust to you:)
2007-02-09 10:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to feel that way your not a bad person I know how its frustrating I answered your other question. about me and my husband going through infertility & the FSH levels I get the same way can't help the way you feel its hard when your trying so hard to have one then your friends have No problem My sister is a perfect example I love my sister to death but she's a loser shes 31 has 5 kids and takes care of none there all with the father 3 different dads not to mention shes a whore sad but true and here me and my husband are both good jobs stable and having nothing but problems it makes me so mad good luck to you again.
2007-02-10 00:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by vixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to your feelings, it doesn't make you a bad person at all!
It took me two years to get pg naturally, so you aren't alone in your experience. There was no medical reason they could find, it was just called 'delayed fertility'. Still it was a very long two years for us.
If your friends have been tested, have you considered doing the same with you and your hubby? If there is anything keeping you from getting pregnant, a doctor or nurse practicioner could point you in the right direction about things to do or not do.
2007-02-09 10:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It shows what a selfish, self-centered, evil person you really are and shows deep down inside what youre really made of. If you cant have your way, then you feel jealous and full of hate for them. That is a terrible way to feel. And i can only imagine how you would feel towards a child if it got more attention than you. Grow up, sweetie, and get some counseling before you think about having another human being.
2007-02-10 00:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person it's a normal emotion. Realize it's a normal emotion but try to not act badly towards the person. Personally if I can't have children I won't be upset. I had a horrible childhood and horrible relationships with my parents & sibling. I don't want to recreate that.
2007-02-09 09:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Missy Saffron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer that question because I don't know you.
However, if you want to have a child for purely egotistical reasons, then by all means avoid pregnancy for the sake of the child you should not have. Thank you.
2007-02-10 23:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Zeek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that kind of envy is evil
2007-02-09 14:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋