Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughtd out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to thje time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I Am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit
2007-02-09 01:22:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Answer this....If he left your life today, how would you feel, and could you see yourself with another guy? Sounds like you love him, but I think you're insecure about a lot of things and are lacking in confidence. Your bf is trying to give you that confidence, so please don't doubt him or your feelings for him. Good luck
2007-02-09 01:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you must have some feelings for him. There could be alot of reasons you are feeling the way you do. Is this your first time being in love? That maybe if it is you aren't sure what you should be feeling. Maybe you are worried that things are moving too fast or not fast enough. Maybe the thought of the future is making you nervous. It sounds like you have a really great guy. If he is supporting you through all the tough times that your going through right now then give him a chance. Take time to work this all out and it will eventually work itself out. Best of luck to both of you.
2007-02-09 09:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are scared of this being real or not. 5 months is not a very long time. You are putting way to much pressure on yourself as to whether this is real or not.......you need to give it more time. Who said you have to make a decision on this so soon anyway???? Don't worry if it is or not...give it time. That is what dating is all about, this is the time when you either fall in love, or find out you really aren't meant for eachother. Lighten up a little, take the pressure off of yourself and your relationship, let it go, quit talking about with him and let time give you the answer.
2007-02-09 09:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by t f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. You are just bord with him. There is nothing wrong with that. That happens after the new wears off. You may be seeing him to much,too. Try spending less time with him and you start to miss him- then you really love him. You may just be wanting a little spark in your relationship and he's not producing. Don't let this make you want to break up with him because if he's a real good guy you may never find one like him again. Sometimes we let our thoughts and emotions overtake us. So, do what I said and maybe you'll see if it is just crazy-thinking or you reallydon't love him and don't want to spend the rest of your life trying to.
2007-02-09 10:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you asked yourself that then you dont. best to be friends enjoy the company and stop worring about it. and stop taking those damn pills they can lead to more severe problems. your GP cannot diagnose this, at least see a counselor, and a pychologist (not a pychiatrist) before choose a medicinial route. besides if the pills make you stop thinking about it how will you ever know
2007-02-09 09:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by contractor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well apparently you havet hought this through and you dnt' love him so get rid of him and get on its simple as that. you are afraid of letting him go? why i have no clue but you have already figured it out. get on with it.
2007-02-13 01:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its kinda normal and kinda crazy too.. you say you love him, yet your thought says what if... what ifs..... if you really love him, you would not doubt it... but if you are not sure, maybe you don't really love him...
2007-02-09 09:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by girlfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um.. well at least you got help
2007-02-09 09:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋