My husband is a warm and friendly guy and I do love him. What I'm uncomfortable about is his relationships with certain female friends (whom I've never met). They spend so much time on the phone & they confide in him a lot. What hurt me is that I found out he transferred cash to one just weeks before our wedding and has been communicating with her since. He lied about the whole thing until I confronted him with evidence. He told the truth and now is angry and withdrawn. How do I break this cycle, what do I do?
2007-02-09 01:14:43 · 14 answers · asked by sweetginger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try counseling. Trust needs to be re- established in this relationship.
2007-02-09 02:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jouvert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting situation that you have.I am curious as to why you have not met these female friend's of his.I am also intersested as to why he would be giving them money.You need to have a serious discussion with your husband and insist on meeting theses women because if they are lagitimate friend's both your husband and these women will have no problem all getting together and meeting with you.The fact that your husband is angry and withdrawn is a red flag to me because that is a sign of guilt.Trust is everything in a relationship/marriage without trust you have nothing.Good Luck to you.
2007-02-09 01:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have lied to you, first off. Secondly, he damn sure shouldn't have been giving another chick money from your household! Without asking! WTF! I'd be pissed if I were you. What else is he hiding??? How would HE feel if you were on the phone with some hot guy friends for hours and how would he feel if they gave YOU some cash to spend?
I don't know what to say, hun. It's definitely suspect. Why haven't you met them - especially the one he's giving the money to?
How can you trust him now? This is screwed up. Now you're going to have in the back of your head that he's cheating because he wasn't honest and he's keeping you out of the loop with his 'friends'.
My advice - Next time you go out with your girlfriends, make friends with a guy - not just any guy - a really hot one. And say, "what's the big deal, honey? You've got friends.." And see how he likes it.
2007-02-09 01:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, You should at least met his female friends, I am pretty sure they know who you are but it would be even better if he actually introduce you to them and it should be no problem to do that if they are just friends.
Tell him it is starting to make you uncomfortable when he is on the phone with his female friends for a long period of time/Major of the time threw out the day and he will have to put that to a stop and if he don't then he is being selfish.
he shouldn't be angry because you busted him if anything he should even nicer, to me that sound weird.
You should be his top priority, you come first.
2007-02-09 01:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to become your own private investigator and do some investigating . It seems like there is alot more going on here than meets the eye . I would so be angry with him over this and I would ask him why he thinks he has the right to be angry with you over this. but I am sure of one thing there is more going on here . for your sake check it out . good luck .
2007-02-09 06:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's talking to other women on the phone and he's got a wife my opinion is i think a husband should'nt have his wife thinking that something is going on by talking to other women not if he loves his wife lot ot times a man will say thier just friends then next thing you know he's cheating and lieing about it
2007-02-09 02:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him then do so if you don't ask him about it get him to talk about the whole thing if doesn't then tell him bye communication is the biggest part of a relationship
2007-02-09 01:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by gerry b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his secrets hurt you and you want him to stop communicating with all his female friends. Tell him what he is doing is cheating and you won't stand for it. If he doesn't comply, tell him you will consider divorcing him.
2007-02-09 02:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is just a friend why did he hide the relationship? Is he reallyfriendly with other women when you go together?
2007-02-09 01:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Joan G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't met her any of his female friends, and he lies about it ...there is something going on, If there was nothing, there should be no problem why you couldnt meet these women. afterall you guys are getting married, and he's suppose to be your other 1/2 your soulmate, ..something is going on.
2007-02-09 01:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋